Chapter 35 PART VI Seven Ways to Bring Peace into Your Home

Chapter 1 How to dig the grave of marriage the fastest Napoleon III, Emperor of France, is Napoleon.The nephew of Ponnapad, he and the most beautiful woman in the world, Ichenne.Countess Dibba, fell in love and then they got married.His ministers pointed out that Diba was only the daughter of an insignificant Spanish count.But Napoleon replied: What does it matter? Yes, her grace, her youth, her allure, her beauty made Napoleon happy.Napoleon announced to the whole country in an uproar and fierce speech: I have chosen a woman I love to be my wife, and I don't want to marry a woman I don't know.

Napoleon and his new wife, they have health, power, prestige, beauty, love, all the conditions for a happy marriage. The holy fire lit by marriage has never been so bright and white-hot as they are. However, not long after, this blazing and brilliant light gradually cooled down!Finally, it became a pile of dust.Napoleon can make Miss Dibba a queen.But the power of his love and the authority of the king could not stop her from chattering unreasonably to him. Diba was plagued by jealousy, tormented by suspicion, which made her defy his orders and even forbid Napoleon any secrets.She broke into Napoleon's office where state affairs were being dealt with. She destroyed an important meeting between Napoleon and his ministers that was under discussion.She would not allow him to be alone, always afraid that Napoleon would be in love with other women.

She would go to her sister and complain about her husband complaining, crying, and chattering!She would break into his study, be furious, and curse Napoleon with many magnificent palaces. As the head of state, he could not find a small room where he could live in peace. Ethany.What did Miss Diba gain from those noises? Here is the answer I am now from Rhine.Hart's famous book Napoleon and Ichenne.Diba, an excerpt from the book Tragic Comedy of an Empire: Later, Napoleon often sneaked out through a small door of the palace at night; covered his eyes with a soft hat, and was accompanied by a trusted attendant to accompany him to a tryst with a beautiful woman who was expecting him.They will either roam in Paris, or watch the nightlife that the king usually does not easily see.

In the case of Napoleon, it was Egeny.Miss Diba's achievements.In fact, she is on the throne of France, and her beauty is all over the country, but she is the queen, she has the beauty of all over the country, but she can't make love exist in a noisy atmosphere.Yichenni once cried and said: The thing I feared most finally happened to me. upon her?It was her own fault, she found it by herself.The poor woman, it was all her jealousy and blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Of all the fires of love devised by the devil in hell, quarrels are the most dreadful of all, like being bitten by a poisonous snake, there is no hope of life.

The wife of the great Russian writer Tolstoy also made such a discovery, but it was too late.When she was dying, she confessed to her daughter, saying: Your father's death is my fault.Her daughters did not answer, but burst into tears. They know that their mother is telling the truth and that it is their mother, the constant complaining, the constant criticism, that the father died under the circumstances. But Count Tolstoy and his wife, in such favorable circumstances, should be very happy.Tolstoy is one of the most famous novelists in history, his two masterpieces War and Peace and Anna.Karenina, in the field of literature, will always shine brightly.

Tolstoy is loved by people, and his admirers even follow him all day long, and quickly write down every word he says.Even if he said such a sentence: I think I should go to bed!A bland sentence like that was also recorded.Now the Soviet Russian government has printed all the words and sentences he has written into books, so that there are one hundred volumes in total. In addition to a good reputation, Tolstoy and his wife had property, status, and children.All over the world, there is almost no such happy marriage as theirs. Their union seems to be too perfect and too passionate, so they knelt on the ground and prayed to God, hoping to continue to give them such happiness.

Later, an amazing thing happened, and Tolstoy gradually changed.He became another person, and he felt ashamed of his past works.From then on, he devoted the rest of his life to writing pamphlets promoting peace, ending war, and alleviating poverty. He once confessed for himself that in his youth, he had committed all kinds of unimaginable crimes and mistakes, even murder.He must truly follow the teachings of Jesus Christ.He gave all his fields to others and lived a poor life himself.He works in the fields, chops wood, hays, makes his own shoes, sweeps his own house, serves his meals out of wooden bowls, and tries to love his enemies as much as possible.

The course of Tolstoy's life should be a tragedy, and the cause of the tragedy was his marriage.His wife loves luxury and vanity, but he despises and despises her.She longs for prominence, fame, and social admiration.However, Tolstoy dismissed these.She wanted money and possessions; he thought wealth and possessions a sin. After so many years, she made noise, abused, and cried, because he insisted on giving up the publishing rights of all his works, and did not charge any royalties or royalties.However, she hoped to get the wealth that came from that side. When he disapproved of her, she would cry like mad, and roll on the floor with a bottle of opium in her hand, which she was about to swallow to kill herself, and at the same time threatened her husband that she would jump into a well.

In the course of their lives, there was one event, which I think is the most tragic scene in history.I have already said that their initial marriage was very happy, but after forty-eight years, he could not bear to see his wife again. On a certain night, this old and sad wife, longing for love, knelt before her husband and begged him to recite the most beautiful love poems he wrote for her fifty years ago.When he reads about those beautiful, sweet days, now a lost memory, they both cry with emotion how different the reality of life is from the lost memory Finally, when he was eighty-two years old, Tolstoy could no longer bear the pain of his family's torment, and on a snowy night in October 1910, he escaped from his wife The house fled to the severe cold and darkness, but disappeared.

Eleven days later, Tolstoy fell ill with pneumonia and collapsed in a station. His dying plea was that his wife not be allowed to visit him. This is the price Madame Tolstoy pays for complaining, rowdyness, and hysteria. Maybe people think that she is noisy in several places, which is not too much!Yes, we can admit that, but that's not what we're talking about.And most importantly, did that chatter help her in some way?Or make things worse? I think I'm totally out of my mind!It was too late when Mrs. Tolstoy realized that sentence. The greatest tragedy in Lincoln's life was also his marriage.Please note that it was not his assassination, but his marriage.When Boss shot at him, he didn't feel hurt because he lived in pain almost every day.

His legal colleague Hatton described Lincoln's twenty-three years of life as being in pain caused by an unhappy marriage.Unhappy marriage?For almost a quarter of a century, Mrs. Lincoln was chattering, wearying Lincoln's life. She is always complaining, always criticizing her husband, and she thinks nothing about her husband Lincoln is right.She complained to her husband that there was no flexibility in his steps, and his movements were not refined at all. She even made fun of him by pretending to be his husband. She kept nagging him to change the way he walked. She didn't like to see his big ears, which were at right angles to his head. She even pointed out that her husband's nose was not straight, and pointed out how ugly his lips were, and his hands and feet were too big, but his head was so small.She also said that her husband was like a consumptive man. Lincoln and his wife were opposites in every respect. They were often irritated and hostile to each other in terms of upbringing, environment, temperament, interests, intelligence and appearance. The late Senator Bee Fritz was an authority on Lincoln's biography.He wrote: Mrs. Lincoln's shrill voice can be heard across the street.She roared continuously, and all those who lived nearby could hear her.Her anger is often vented in ways other than words, and it is not easy to describe her angry expression. Here is an example: the Lincolns, shortly after their marriage, lived with Mrs. Ollie, the widow of a doctor in Springfield, who had to be lodged, perhaps, to supplement the family income. One morning, when Lincoln and his wife were having breakfast, Lincoln, for some reason, aroused his wife's fury. In her anger, Mrs. Lincoln took a cup of hot coffee and poured it on her husband's face. Do this in front of the guests. Lincoln sat there holding his breath without saying a word, when Mrs. Ollie came over and wiped the coffee off Lincoln's face and clothes with a towel. Mrs. Lincoln's jealousy was almost unbelievable. She was so vicious and fierce. Just read a few paragraphs of the pathetic and shameful things she did in front of everyone. Read these seventy-five years later. It would be surprising.She ended up going insane. If we're going to be honest with her, it means she's always been a little neurotic. Did all the shouting, scolding, and chatter change Lincoln?On the other hand, yes.That did change Lincoln's attitude toward her, it made him regret his unhappy marriage, and it made him avoid seeing her as much as possible. There were eleven lawyers in Springfield, and they couldn't all squeeze together to make a living.So they often rode horses and followed Judge Davis, who was in court at the time, to other places. In this way, they could find some jobs in the courts of the towns in the Eighth Judicial District. The other lawyers, everyone wants to go back to Springfield for the weekend, go back and spend the weekend with their families.But if Lincoln didn't go back to Springfield, he was afraid of going home. For three months in spring and three months in autumn, he would rather stay in his hometown than go near Springfield. He does this every year.It is not a comfortable thing to stay in a small hotel in the town!But Lincoln would rather live there alone than go home and listen to his wife's chatter. This is what happened to Mrs. Lincoln, Queen Icheny, and Mrs. Tolstoy after they quarreled with their husbands.What they get is the ending of a tragic scene in the course of life.They destroyed everything they cherished, and their love. Heimberg, who has worked in New York Family Court for eleven years, has reviewed thousands of abandonment cases.He has this opinion on this aspect, he said: One of the main reasons why men leave the family is because their wives are noisy and chattering.The Boston Post once reported such a section: Many wives, continuously, digging in the mud again and again, completed a marriage tomb for them. So, if you want to keep your family happy and happy, the first rule is: Don't chatter.