Chapter 6 Fifth Letter Love and Marriage

The eternal power is led by love My daughter with pure eyes: You asked me the other day if I knew you were in love with Mike.For my laugh at that time, please forgive me.Your questioning like that makes me feel infinitely happy.This matter has become very obvious in the past few months, and even the canaries at home should know about it.You are as bright as a Christmas tree lately.If someone doesn't know the reason under such circumstances, then this person must be very dull, right? Although you told me quietly that you were even terrified by the passionate emotion that hit your heart, however, when I saw your happy face, my heart really felt warm.What else do you have to be afraid of?This is something that everyone experiences.Maybe I like to make metaphors too much. I think you are in a dazzled trance state, so you should be able to make such an explanation!The so-called attraction of love is likely to grow into a huge peak that is even taller.It is a beautiful, majestic and extremely exciting spiritual peak.It is the largest, strongest and most desired part of all human emotions. Its role is to silently deliver the panacea to all over the world, so as to heal the most tragic wounds or disputes in the world.Where there is love there must be thoughtfulness, compassion, understanding and hope.

Young people certainly have an urge to love a particular person and to marry that person.This is a very common desire, and it can also be said to be a physiological need for the purpose of obtaining a spouse.Each of us has an image of the ideal spouse in our mind, and at the same time dreams of being together forever and living happily ever after.However, the so-called forever, its focus must be on the real world.How many young men begin married life for the wrong reasons!They get married either to get rid of the shackles of the family, or to be decent, or to revel in the sweet fairy life.Real married life is never like that, and it is bound to be accompanied by difficulties.Only with love that can overcome difficulties, married life can become a paradise of happiness bathed in spring, and a safe haven from hardships and disturbances.

Writer John.Philip.McConnell said it well: Marriage, especially in Boston, is a very solemn thing.Leaving aside the particular circumstances of the Boston area, marriage is not, anywhere, a joint venture that begins with a game attitude.If you have the idea of ​​getting married, I think the first thing you should do is to measure the depth and duration of your love with Mike. I have no intention of despising him at all, and at the same time, I think what I say is very frank.From my point of view, for a person who is considering marriage, one should carefully evaluate several characteristics of the other party with discerning eyes before marriage.When a person falls in love, his personality often undergoes dramatic changes.A person caught in this magic can sometimes become a good person overnight.He or she will be very kind, caring, helpful, and brighter and more likable than usual.The intensity of the person's love will conceal the faults of character, having the effect of ivy covering a ruined wall.Yet, as the ivy withers at the end of the season, so too often does the gilded virtue peel off as fresh affection ebbs.At this time, this person will suddenly realize that what he thinks is not true no matter in the past, present or future.This incident is an unbearable great shock to us, and it is even more unbearable if the inconsistency between the surface and the inside of the personality is serious.Most parents will earnestly persuade their children to spend sufficient time carefully understanding the true character of their future partner before marriage. This is the reason.

Asking young people who are indulging in fantasies on the clouds to look at the lower world through the clouds may be simply hopeless.However, after living together for a period of time, it should not be difficult to gain a deep understanding of each other's basic personality.In this happy time, even half of the time, as long as the eyes are open and the ears are not plugged, it should be possible.Is your lover usually tolerant to others?Do you know how to cherish time?Are you thoughtful about everything?Are you stingy with money?Is it a positive attitude or a gloomy mood towards ordinary things in the world?Are you sincere?Do you have a habit of taking advantage of others?Are you proud of your work?Have you been absent from work frequently and lacked enthusiasm for work?Are you polite, sociable, and tactful when talking to people?Still very dull?What about when you're drunk?

Maybe you think I'm like all fathers, looking for a superman who doesn't exist in this world to be my wife and son-in-law.In fact I absolutely did not mean that.I just ask you to share your mountain of love with someone who can be trusted, that's all.I would never want to see you living the so-called shared life in the crater with people who are not reliable. The French novelist Mrs. Stahl said such a conclusion hundreds of years ago that love is the whole of a woman, but it is a small episode of a man.If this is the case, then we can only pray to God for her blessing on all those who get married.

Later, the British playwright George Bernard Shaw, who was born in Ireland, said a sentence that is both funny and sad on the same theme. , the two men had, so to speak, sworn to die together in this abnormal and ultimately exhausting state of excitement. Needless to say, I do not view this issue with the same irony as these two writers.However, when considering the fact that a third of marriages these days do end in a broken mirror, I guess it must be incontrovertible that people are doing something terribly wrong?What a sad statistic!Even without children, divorce is still a great pain.The situation is even more dire if there are children.I have seen several friends divorced, and the pain they endured before and after is really horrible.If you have such an experience, then I will definitely be in pain, right?I hope that you, who are feeling floating on the clouds, will sometimes take a look at real problems.If you observe your future wishful husband with a calm eye, the possibility of you falling into this state in the future will be much reduced.

Soon after, the relationship between your husband and wife will occasionally spout water like a geyser. I believe that it will be almost crazy than Xiao Weng said. It can only be solved with delusion. Or the state of excitement is relatively stable, and it becomes a constant, steady flow of deep emotions?If you know how to enhance the union with each other with consideration, tenderness, understanding, respect and sincerity every day, I believe that love will not become an episode as Mrs. Stahl said. After marriage, any trivial matters in daily life should be handled by husband and wife together, which is a natural thing.For you are no longer two individuals, but two halves of oneness.Anything you do will more or less affect each other.Here, I want to add in a hurry, that is, living together is the essence of a successful family life, and there must be no things that restrict the other party or the freedom of both parties.It's absolutely essential that each has something to say and that both have the freedom to pursue their own interests wherever they please.If tennis is what you enjoy and your husband enjoys sipping a cup, then you can make separate vacations and enjoy your own.The men go fishing together, the ladies go on excursions together, this is the way to go.You can enjoy the taste of Xiao Bie Sheng newlyweds. However, it should be noted that the number of small farewells should not be too frequent.I don't need to repeat the meaning of the old adage that it's easy to fall in love with someone who's around when the one you love isn't around?

The love between husband and wife is the deepest friendship.Choose a life partner, of course, must be very careful.A thoughtful, noble, and magnanimous man is far better than a hundred handsome men, or a rich man who lacks these virtues.Be careful not to regard artificial things as essential.As a father, what I look forward to is of course a son-in-law who loves my daughter from the bottom of my heart.I hope this person is considerate to my daughter in every possible way, my daughter's most dependent supporter, and also my daughter's favorite, most reliable friend and supporter in her life.

I repeat, I am not expecting a superman, but a man worthy of admiration. full of love another of your admirers restart: If you want to know more about my opinion on this issue, you may wish to read my letter to your brother, "Don't think about marriage lightly" (this letter is for men)!