Chapter 23 The second and second letters Husband's time, Wife's time

The music that came after the interruption sounded particularly pleasant. my lovely daughter: I regret not being able to see you when I came to your house last Saturday.Your husband said that you have been working overtime at the company almost every Saturday, and sometimes even on Sunday night.I felt even more regretful when I heard his tone of voice.Your husband does have the sincerity to share family responsibilities with you, but in fact he shoulders more than you. Even a genius can see this.This is my first point. The second point is that the last two or three times we have dined out together, your attitude towards the waiters in the restaurant has been quite arrogant and rude.This is completely different from you, who is always very polite and considerate.Of course, I don't doubt your rationality at all, but I don't think these two points are small things that can be taken lightly.If it's because you're so preoccupied with work that you don't care about your daily responsibilities, or what people around you feel and want from you, then that's a big problem.

Not only from the standpoint of your father, but also from the standpoint of someone who has experienced it, I sincerely advise you that you should be vigilant when you see danger signals.At this time, you must stop, listen, and watch, and you must carefully analyze the situation in front of you.You seem to be devoting more and more time to your work.I know that your workload is indeed a lot. In fact, the work of the head of the business department can never be done.Diligence is the only way to advance. I have indeed told you this many times.However, I have repeatedly told you that maintaining a balance in life is also very important!Can you say that your current life is in balance?Are you unknowingly relying on your family’s love and care, especially your husband’s support, assistance and love because you are too devoted to your work?Even if you gain success, knowledge or experience because of it, your fault will be irreparable.

I know a young police officer whose promotion was celebrated by his whole family. Neither he nor his wife could have dreamed that this promotion would bring countless pains and chaos to their family's daily life.After he was promoted, he not only often had to work continuously for several days without sleep, even on the days off, he was with his family at any time, even at meal time, when he was practicing hockey, when he went to the school where his children were attending parent-child activities, and took the children to their Whenever he gets a call while playing at his grandparents' house, or while he's reading a bedtime story to the children, he has to rush to the scene of the crime.

The things he agreed with the children began to break the promise again and again.His two young sons couldn't understand why his father didn't make the things agreed with them the first priority.The idea of ​​believing what Dad said has disappeared from their minds, and at first they would ask: When will Dad come back?Soon, even become dad is not living with us anymore?Later, they even stopped asking about their father at all.His wife was worried that such things would have too much psychological impact on the children, so she suggested that he be transferred to a back office position with fixed commuting hours.As a result, he did not listen to his wife.He thinks that he works so hard to make life better for his family.As long as the wife does her job as a wife and husband, everything in the family can still be perfect. This is his idea.

His wife disagreed.She thought that instead of letting the young children grow up in such a family and grow up mentally unsound, it is better to go outside to live a life of mother and child, so she took the children away from home.In the end, fortunately, the wife did not run away from home. (With the reason that the husband only cares about work, there should not be many wives who do such stupid things?) And her husband was transferred to the back office as he wished.The family later lived a life of peace, cooperation and stability. Even so, it is heartrending to see a family in a state of chaos and crisis for a long time before the rain clears.If the same thing happens to this family again today, the couple will be able to solve the problem properly because they have sufficient knowledge and experience, right?Experienced people will not make the same mistakes.The music that came out after the interruption sounded particularly pleasant.You might as well stop the music for a while and think about what is the most precious thing in life.Think about it at the same time, do you give the most heart to the most precious thing?

Maybe I'm nosy (take it as an older person's fault), but since I'm on the subject, let me say enough!Your husband's work and rest time for a long time is completely based on your time.When you are working in the company, he is responsible for 80% of the childcare and housework.When an emergency or special event occurs, one person instigates the responsibility shared by two people, which is a matter of no hesitation for loving couples.This is called concentricity between husband and wife.However, no matter what kind of couples are deeply in love, problems will arise sooner or later under the situation where the responsibility sharing continues to be unfair.If you think this is something your husband would love to do, you're dead wrong.

Whether it is a husband or a child (including work), you must not spend all your time on one object.Even if you give 100%, the other party will think it is not enough and want more, which is human nature.How much to keep, this is a very important skill.If you habitually work until late at night every day, even on Saturdays, after a long time, people will not think that you are working hard, but will take it for granted. Once you return to normal working conditions, they will say that you are lazy.As a result of being so selfless about work, you will inevitably lose many opportunities to communicate with your family and friends.Lost opportunities can never be regained.When the sacrifice is too great, the reward is nothing more than the satisfaction of eating chocolate.Once the chocolate is gone there's nothing left but the serious fact that you'll gain a few pounds, and you'll have to suffer for it.

I think it is necessary for you to hold a summit meeting at this time.That said, you have to have a good conversation with your husband and kids about adjusting the balance.I want you to immediately go back to the old shift system, where the husband and wife take turns putting the child to sleep, picking him up from kindergarten, taking him to the dentist, or taking piano lessons.At the same time, you should accompany your husband out for entertainment one night a week, and try to get in touch with your children or friends as much as possible. You may say that there are in fact great difficulties in reducing the hours of work to such an extent.You don't need to tell me about this.But is it worth doing so?Do I need to ask you this sentence again?

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