Chapter 8 Candidates and Parents

The annual entrance exam for higher education, students and parents will inevitably feel a little nervous, and they always hope that their wishes will be fulfilled.In fact, it is important to enter a higher education, but it is especially important for parents to pay attention to maintaining the physical and mental health of their children. Except for a very small number of students who think they have excellent academic performance and are full of confidence, it can be said that the vast majority of young people who take the exam feel a lot of mental pressure to take the entrance exam. If you relax your children's tension, but only focus on supervising and urging them too tightly, it will aggravate the children's mental pressure, which may have the opposite effect.This is like the tension on a string that has already been stretched, even if it is not broken, the sound that can be played will be out of shape and tuned.In the past, some students with good academic performance failed in the joint entrance examination. I am afraid that part of the reason for the failure was that they were too nervous.This is what students and parents should be aware of in advance.

The most important thing to avoid is that parents must not order their children to do well in the exam; let alone say how the parents will lose face if they fail the exam.Because using this method to urge children to study harder will not help, but will destroy the children's spontaneous ability in homework, and subconsciously only regard reading and entering a higher school as fulfilling their responsibilities to their parents, which is not good .The purpose of studying and upgrading is to increase knowledge; and the motivation for academic progress lies in whether one has a spontaneous interest in seeking knowledge.Therefore, parents can try their best to induce and stimulate their children's interest in reading, but they can't regard it as fulfilling their responsibilities to parents.Otherwise, it is not something the fragile hearts of children can bear.

Parents, especially should not compare other people's children with their own children, and mistakenly think that this will stimulate their children to catch up.In fact, this method is not only inappropriate, but it will hurt the self-esteem of the children, or even create a potential sense of fear, and even form a sense of resistance because of this disgust, which is even more unexpected.According to the psychological reactions of ordinary children, the most unpleasant thing to hear is to compare other people's children. In addition, there are some parents who do not care about their children's studies in normal times, and even stay at the table day and night. When their children are about to enter the entrance exam, they become nervous and force them to prepare for the exam, or temporarily hire someone to tutor them. But it's too late.

In any exam, even if you have nine points of strength, you still have one point of luck.Candidates and parents should relax and not take the gains and losses too seriously.In today's industrial society, being able to learn a skill may be more useful than a paper diploma.As long as you are not lazy and willing to make progress, you should know that you can be the number one scholar in everything you do.