Chapter 36 Speak less and speak more

Three brothers, Ziyou, Zizhong, and Zijing, the youngest sons of Wang Xizhi in the Jin Dynasty, went to visit the famous Qing Xiegong (An Shi) together. Ziyou and Zizhong talked more about common things, while Zijing stopped at cold and warm.After they resigned, the guests present asked Mr. Xie: "Which of these three sons is the best?"An Shi said: Small ones are best.The guest asked again: How can you see it?An Shi quoted Zhouyi cohesives and replied: the auspicious people have few words, but the restless people have many words; you can know it by deduction. This is one of the ancient people's standards for observing the world and knowing people. They always take warnings from those who talk too much, so it is said that if you talk too much, you will lose it.Western sages also said: People often regret when they say something wrong; they never regret when they are silent.It shows that both Chinese and foreign people behave in the world.Therefore, it is said that people have two ears but only one mouth, which is to teach people to listen more and speak less.

However, if one does not speak, or if one is too silent on matters of justice, one will become gloomy or be mistaken for a wish of the people. Therefore, the sages also taught people: It is better to talk less than to talk more, and it is better to talk less than to talk less.This good word means to speak properly and have something to say. However, in today's world, the atmosphere is quite different. In the society, those who are good at speaking are regarded as capable people, especially those who are used to eloquent words get benefits everywhere, and those who are dull are not liked by others. Those who fight with words win, but the truth of the matter is annihilated. It is not a pity not to use grandstanding as evil.

Wherever the rumors come, there are as many people who play tricks and talk nonsense; some talk indiscriminately; some ridicule and scold the street; some only care about self-interest without knowing justice; There are also, so many unnecessary disturbances arise from this, which hinders the harmony of the group as much as hinders the harmony between people, and harms the harmony between people. This bad habit, since everyone is evil , It would not spread endlessly, but because some people still like to listen to this kind of sarcasm, unexpectedly it encourages it! Those who are used to talking fast, and most of them talk about people's right and wrong casually, don't look into the truth and only attack the superficial appearance, which is really a great harm to the morality of the word, but there are also people who blindly follow it, see people's jokes, and then lose their minds. Why not stop it in time?

Jin people compared Xie Anshi and Wang Tan's pros and cons, and asked Duke Huan. Duke Huan pondered for a while and wanted to say something, but suddenly regretted it, but said: You like to pass on other people's words, so I can't say anything to you. .Such a virtue of prudence and prudence, being able to recognize the target, saying what should be said, and not saying what is inappropriate, can put an end to the right and wrong of those who are accustomed to talking, and there is no reason to make troubles. Although the world is constantly evolving, the way to behave in the world is still to speak with a bright heart, and between speaking less and speaking well, if you feel that there is no basis for propriety, it is always the best virtue to say nothing perfection.