Chapter 5 Lift the world with the fulcrum of the soul

No matter how dangerous the situation is, you should give yourself a reason to sail for your dream, then open it and move forward! People with self-pity almost all have a common characteristic of habitually finding thousands of negative excuses to make all concerned people believe how helpless their current situation is, and the hidden attempt is to win everyone's sympathy. I often hear friends around me complaining and complaining about Yitraku. The most common complaints of office workers are that the boss is harsh, most of the colleagues are small and medium-sized, and one person has to do the work of three people.I am a very patient listener, and I can quietly listen to a bucket of saliva, but when the other party finishes complaining, I can't help but ask a very impolite question: Then why are you still there?You might as well resign!

I found that most of the whining friends around me are still sober, and they will quickly throw out an answer, such as: Because my daughter is still young, I need a stable job at this stage. The economic downturn, I just hope that the company will not fail. Although there is not much money and many things; but it is still close to home.wait. In addition to work, there are also many people who are trapped in unhappy love. They have countless picks and complaints about their partners, but they can't do without him. When you ask couples who often quarrel and torture each other: Since it is so painful, why don't you break up?

Their answer is probably: He still has a cute place! When you ask a spouse who is not compatible and has turned against each other: why not divorce? Their reason is often: to give children happiness! No matter what the answer is, as long as they can answer it, I feel safe for them.Complaints are complaints, at least he knows why he must endure these grievances. Maybe it's just a small reason, which seems completely out of proportion to the unsatisfactory things he suffered, but it's enough. A small reason is enough to make people willing to live and work, and they are very clear about what they are doing intellectually. No matter how much dissatisfaction is expressed in the mouth, it becomes an outlet to relieve emotions, purely to release pressure.

Salonpas patch for the soul, the effect of the medicine is only temporary There are nine out of ten unsatisfactory things in life.It is a word of comfort.I often feel that it is like a Salonpas patch that can reduce swelling and pain, provide a cooling effect on the sore area, and for people with occasional injuries, it can immediately prevent deterioration. But if you have to fight against an unsatisfactory state for a long time, it is not a Salonpas patch that can overcome it.What is needed is a strong reason to help you hold up the pain and get more long-term happiness, which must be endured for a while.

In life, I am most afraid of being completely dissatisfied with my situation, but I will only keep complaining, letting negative emotions cover up my reason. What if the reason you can't give your best in life is because you don't know what to fight?Who are you fighting for? , On the surface, it looks very innocent, but in fact it is very irresponsible to yourself. It is a sin to show innocence to a life that is within our control. It is already a very bad thing to be unable to make up your mind to try to escape, and it is even more unwise to let yourself go up and down aimlessly.Even if the current situation is a boundless sea of ​​suffering, you can't put your head in the dirty waters and just use your hands and feet to keep struggling with the dissatisfaction in your heart, otherwise you will never be able to swim out.At least grab a piece of driftwood, let your head stick out of the water to breathe, see clearly the direction of the future, and then rely on the strength of the driftwood to swim to a place where you can touch the shore.

Make good use of the principle of leverage to lift up the world of the soul Just like giving me a fulcrum, I can lift the earth!The meaning of this sentence is that a troubled mind also needs a lever principle to support happiness.Giving yourself a positive reason is enough to hold up a great dream, and it will make you extremely powerful when facing the helplessness in life! The so-called positive reason is not fantasy comfort, but a real connection with future happiness, and more importantly, action. Action is the antidote to despair.This is a famous quote from Joan Bais, and it is the key to turning defeat into victory.

I was once invited by the Confucian Tutorial School to give a speech to the students in the fourth grade of senior high school who were re-entering the university.Many of them participated in the top three voluntary guarantee classes. They had already passed the university entrance examination the year before, but in order to get into their ideal school, they had to spend an extra year, and experienced the bitter years of studying hard and no one asked them. .A classmate said: As long as you think of the joy of being named on the gold list, no matter how much hard work you are facing, it is worth enduring.Therefore, while willing to endure pain, they are also willing to make more efforts.

Just like a person who is determined to cross the sea, if he encounters a turbulent current and is almost drowned, in addition to trying his best to catch driftwood, he still has to paddle hard with his hands and feet, so that he can escape from the sea of ​​suffering one day.Otherwise, driftwood can only guarantee that he will not perish for the time being, but it cannot help him escape from the abyss of danger.This is the biggest difference between dependence and action! Ms. Liu Xiuwen, an ophthalmologist with excellent medical skills, once relayed a famous saying to me: Don't make excuses for failure, just find reasons for success!This sentence is really good, and it is also suitable to remind those friends who think that they have no power over their lives. No matter how dangerous the situation is, you should give yourself a reason to sail for your dreams, and then open it and move forward!

Rather than sinking into the quagmire of frustration and relying on the sympathy of others to provide nourishment for the soul, it is better to give yourself a positive reason to turn the difficult situation into a transitional stage in a planned way, which will always open the exit to success.