Chapter 79 Tolstoy's marriage

There are many threads of love, just to tie the one you love to your side. This kind of closed marriage hinders personal growth. In the epilogue to War and Peace, Tolstoy described what he thought was an ideal couple, a happy marriage: Before marriage, the woman is a girl who loves to dress up and be coquettish, but after marriage, she loses all her charms, abandons all social activities, lives in seclusion, concentrates on caring for her husband and raising children, and learns to be jealous of her husband.The man had many like-minded friends before marriage, but he also gave up these friends after marriage, and put all his energy on the family and the career that maintains the survival of the family.

In fact, this enviable marriage is a closed marriage.Love is inexhaustible, in order to bind the person you love by your side, and it seriously hinders the personality growth of the husband and wife. Tolstoy's own marriage did not go well.When he proposed to Suniya at the age of thirty-four, he was already a well-known playboy, but Suniya was still an innocent and beautiful girl at eighteen.In order to confess his crimes, Tolstoy gave Sunya the diary detailing the absurd events of the past. Although Sunya was shocked by reading it, she still decided to marry him. In the next forty-eight years of married life, Sunya gave birth to thirteen children for Tolstoy, and for his voluminous "War and Peace" manuscript, because of Tolstoy's repeated revisions, he wrote I copied it seven times.On the surface, they live the ideal married life described by Tolstoy, but in fact they are locked together like chains, torturing each other.

Before marriage, Sunya was an ecstatic and beautiful girl, but when she grew old, she became a bad-tempered and wicked wife, which often made Tolstoy feel uneasy.When Tolstoy was eighty-two years old, in order to avoid his wife's noise, he ran away from home on a cold winter night, but it was too late, and acute pneumonia broke out not long after he left.Although Sunya rushed over quickly, she only saw Tolstoy who was unconscious, and she could only tell her love for him in his deaf ear. A closed marriage is just a beautiful fairy tale about marriage.