Chapter 82 mother's opinion

The mother of the anthropologist Mead understood the most advanced principles of parenting, but she raised a remarkable daughter in her own way. Renowned anthropologist Margaret.Mead is also a feminist. Some of her important works make the world re-aware of the importance of children's rearing style in shaping personality.In her autobiography, Meade briefly mentioned her mother's unique way of raising her: Meade's mother was a college-educated intellectual woman with independent opinions on many issues.Before Meade was born, her mother prepared a small notebook, quoting the father of American psychology William.James' views on child rearing, as well as explanations of related issues in various encyclopedias, provide the best preparation for the upcoming child.

Mead was born in a hospital, which was a progressive option at the time since the vast majority of births were still done at home.Because of this, Mead was fortunate to be the first child delivered by a newly opened hospital, and the mother and daughter received the most appropriate and enthusiastic care from all the medical staff. But that by no means means that Mead's mother is raising her children according to the latest parenting guidelines.Mead said in his autobiography: About the time I was born, there was published a baby manual, the author is an advocate of a new method of parenting, advocating regular bottle feeding of babies.Although my mother read this book, she still let me drink her own milk.She also agrees with the author's advice: Unless the baby is really wrong, don't hold it as soon as it cries, but the mother thinks that her little baby is a good child, and there must be something wrong to cry, so she still hugs when she cries.After the mother understands the most advanced principles of parenting, she can safely modify them to meet the special needs of her children.

It is not difficult for readers to see that the infant-rearing principles of the early twentieth century (Mead was born in 1901) are still the infant-rearing principles advocated by some experts today.How many poor mothers feel guilty for violating these principles of parenting?But in the whole world, no expert can understand the individual situation of his own child better than the mother. Why don't you learn from Mead's mother, at least she has raised an outstanding daughter in her own way. It is better to have no books than to believe in books, and the same is true in raising children.