Chapter 17 9. Don’t be afraid of rejection, you won’t know if you don’t try

A very excited voice came from the phone: I want to tell you a piece of good news, my business has really been negotiated!You are so right, any good idea, if you haven't tried it, you have no right to deny it! The caller was a department manager in the IT industry. He called me three days after he attended our superpotential and positive attitude seminar. (1) Don't be afraid of rejection, maybe others are expecting you to appear! In this class, many students talked about a common problem they faced: when they started doing business, they always had a lot of concerns.Especially when you want to sell a new product or new idea to others, you are always afraid of being rejected by others, and even give up because of it.

After listening to their confusion, I told them a story: Many years ago, there was a young man in the United States who encountered an unprecedented economic depression just after graduation.He is troubled by not being able to find a job opportunity every day.One day, he saw in the newspaper that the unemployed army from all over the country gathered together and marched to the capital Washington, asking the government to give him job opportunities.So, he also decided to join this army. On the way to the location of the unemployed army by train, he saw through the car window that there was a place on the side of the road under construction, which seemed to be a factory.So he thought: Since it is a factory, it must also need new employees, right?So, with the idea of ​​giving it a try, he got out of the car halfway and walked to the construction site.When I asked there, I realized that a new steel plant was being built there.So the guy went to the supervisor and asked if they needed someone.

The supervisor asked him about his situation, and said that the knowledge he had learned should be useful here, but it would take a while for the factory to start operation, so he asked him to leave the phone and go back to wait for news.If we need you, I'll call and tell you to come to work. So the young man left the phone and went back, waiting for the notification at home with full expectation.But I waited and waited, but the call never came. At this point in the story, I asked the students a question: Why did the supervisor clearly say that if we need you, I will call you at that time, but he never called?

Many of the people who participated in this seminar were young white-collar workers.They express their opinions based on their own experience in job hunting. Call only when I need you, and if I don't call, I don't need you. That was just polite talk, not really trying to hire him. Find someone better. The factories are not working. One of the most interesting answers was from the department manager who called me: Maybe this supervisor has also been fired!Economic crisis, who can say that he can get rid of it?His words elicited roars of laughter. In fact, the young man may have thought about all the reasons you just mentioned.According to the way of thinking of ordinary people: there must be no chance.But he thinks: Maybe there are other possibilities.Anyway, he decided to go to the factory one more time.As soon as I got there, I found that the factory was already in operation, the machines were buzzing everywhere, and many people were already working there.

He found the supervisor who talked to him back then, who was already the director of the factory.As soon as the factory manager saw him, he immediately gave him an American-style warm hug, and then said: Young man, do you know that when I saw you last time, I thought you were a talent, so I will notify you to go to work as soon as I start work.But I can't find your phone number because I accidentally lost it! This is how young people entered the steel industry.Later, he continued to develop and became the chairman of US Steel Corporation.Under his management, the company's business has developed greatly.In 1953, the annual steel production of the company was equivalent to the sum of the former Soviet Union.This young man is the famous American steel magnate Fairles.

It can be seen that the story of Fairles has shocked everyone a lot.The outcome of the matter was beyond their expectations, and the success of Fairles made everyone see the significance of having a positive attitude in the face of setbacks and rejections. Opportunities will only take you seriously if you take them seriously.Don't be afraid to say no, maybe someone is expecting your presence! These points of view have greatly touched the students.This student in the IT industry, don't be afraid of rejection, maybe others are looking forward to your appearance.He shared his experience with everyone:

Their company has developed a very good software specifically for government departments.He knows many people in government departments, but he has been afraid to open his mouth to promote this software, because he is afraid of being rejected as soon as he speaks, which will make his friends unable to do it in the future.He said he was so moved by Fairles' story that he decided to try it out as soon as he got back. You may have guessed the later results. When he went back to sell it to his friends, the other party immediately expressed strong interest and proposed to try it immediately. After trying it, he decided to buy it immediately, and said such a sentence: Oh, why didn’t you come sooner? tell me.We have been looking for this software, but we can't find it.I thought you were a small company and couldn't develop such software, but I didn't expect to find it here!

Later, a reporter wrote this story and commented that it was actually like two people who had been secretly in love for a long time, but neither of them dared to confess. , I have been loving you for a long time! Does this story move your heart?When you are afraid of rejection, do you already have the courage to give it a try? (2) Never deny before trying Lack of self-confidence and fear of rejection are common characteristics of human beings.However, whether you can do it or not, no matter what you look like in the eyes of others, these are not important, the key is that you have to try

Never deny it until you try it! In 1852, Nekrasov, a famous Russian writer and editor-in-chief of "Modern Man" magazine, received a manuscript called "Childhood".However, for some reason, the author only signed his initials π on the last page of the manuscript and in the letter. H. After reading the manuscript, Nekrasov felt that it was very well written, so he decided to publish it.Since the full name of the author is not known, the work can only be signed by initials when the work is published. This is the first work of the literary giant Tolstoy.Although the work was well written, he dared not sign his real name due to lack of confidence.Fortunately, Nekrasov is a real bole.While publishing this work, he also recommended it to famous writers such as Turgenev, saying: Pay attention to the novella "Childhood"!It appears that the author is a new and promising talent.

Many famous writers praised this work after reading it.At that time, the young Tolstoy was serving in the Caucasus Mountains.One day he came across a review of his work by a well-known critic. Tolstoy read the words of praise, almost suffocating him with ecstasy and tears.The huge success of her debut novel made this timid young man full of hope for the future.Since then, there has been a dazzling star in the world literary world. When a genius wrote an outstanding work, he dared not sign it!This story may be a great encouragement to us: It turns out that geniuses have never been confident!Although not confident, Tolstoy bravely submitted the manuscript to an authoritative journal.Would he have achieved great success without such a bold move?

Many people's potential is suppressed.Many of the light that should be in life is because we cover up ourselves, and finally make it disappear!Many due achievements are stillborn due to our own strikes and denials! (3) Even if there is only one percent hope, it is worth a try Microwave Telephone Company is a well-known company in the United States. It is famous for encouraging employees to try and innovate. Their cultural philosophy is: the employees who were shot at Microwave Telephone Company were not those who did wrong things, but those who dared not adventurous person. Rockefeller said: Even if there is only one percent hope, it is worth a try.This phrase has become a famous saying that is popular all over the United States and embodies the pioneering spirit and entrepreneurial spirit of Americans. Many times, is it okay?How likely is it?What are the opportunities and risks?How big is your potential?You don't know unless you try. In 1902, Theodore.President Roosevelt went to the south for inspection, and the locals set a trap in advance to catch a bear cub, and planned to release it secretly when the president was hunting, so that the president could hit him right away.But the president, aware of their plan, refused to shoot the cubs. The incident was widely reported immediately, and a well-known newspaper published a cartoon by a famous cartoonist.In the painting, Theodore.Roosevelt stands with his back to the cub, gun in hand. Morris, the owner of a small candy store.Mitchton, immediately noticed the cartoon in the newspaper.He thought, maybe he could use this to exaggerate and attract customers.So he put a stuffed bear in the store window with a sticker: Theodore's Bear.This trick worked well and attracted many customers, but he didn't expect many people to ask to buy it. On the spur of the moment, Mitchton sent a letter to the president, asking permission to name the teddy bear Theodore's Bear.In the eyes of many people, this is really ridiculous. How could a dignified president agree to the request of a small boss?But unexpectedly, the president supported his idea, so he quickly wrote back and agreed to his request. As a result, sales of teddy bears soared.Mitchton went on to start Ideal Toys, which went on to sell millions of animal toys. A letter changed your destiny. When an opportunity presents itself to you, are you willing to give it a try? In fact, each of us is surrounded by opportunities, but opportunities only exist when they are seen, and opportunities are only seen when they are sought.Thinker De.Bono said it well: Opportunities are the easiest to find only for proactive people.Instead of passively waiting for things to happen, they are always actively seeking. Those who are determined to find a way for themselves will always find an opportunity; and if they cannot find an opportunity, they will create it.Because they are not afraid of rejection, they are always brave to explore and try bravely! As we all know, Darwin, who proposed the theory of evolution, had a concept of survival of the fittest.Now I think it's time to mention a new concept, which is The tester survives!