Chapter 4 Third Letter Don't Lose Your Pride
Everything about youth is an experiment.Choose your experiments wisely!
To the daughter of disillusioned hope:
I heard that your long-awaited big party last Saturday turned out to be horrible, which made you young people, especially those who are very close to you, make a fool of yourself. I am deeply sorry for this.It is certainly a fine thing to gather together to have a good time, but it is not right to belittle one's own character, and make others frown upon it, by playing to the point of indifference.I know that what you did at the time did fall into the latter category.
This friend of yours is probably overplaying and has never behaved before. I believe this person is feeling ashamed.I also guess that the reason why this person does such a thing is to show off at the party?The most regrettable thing is that this person's good reputation has been shattered to nothing.The result of being ruined due to a momentary foolishness, and the fact that we will not be able to hold up our heads in front of others for a long time in the future should give us enough vigilance, right?
It's a good thing you didn't take part in that rampage so your good image hasn't been tarnished, I'm relieved for that and proud of you at the same time.I hope that you can also maintain such a strong self-esteem in the future, so that people who know you will look at you with respect.Is not this the most precious treasure a man can have in the world?
Being respected means that one's moral values are highly valued.Needless to say, thieves, prostitutes, alcoholics, drug addicts, and the like, who act out of greed or playfulness to abuse themselves or others, or even do evil for the pleasure of destroying others, never May be respected by others.Leaving aside such extreme examples, it is not easy for young people to maintain their self-esteem while enjoying their youth, and hope to be respected by others.
No one doesn't like to make more friends, be accepted and win the favor of others.However, there are not a few wretched ones who are not accepted by their companions because of a poor personality, (perhaps not yet fully developed?) lack of charm, and lack of ability in some sports or art. ．Such people generally lack the qualities that attract others to make others want to associate with each other.Excluded people do not perform well in this area. Because of their eagerness for friendship and companionship, they often make abrupt behaviors to attract attention.Instead of following their own good instincts, such a person often exhibits behaviors such as drinking, taking drugs, stealing (sometimes not for money, but driven by a sense of adventure), etc., and acting out in a show of sophistication, sophistication, or sophistication. Physically, I am stronger than others, and I often have acts of insulting the opposite sex or inflicting violence on others.However, once such a person wakes up, he always thinks about it and feels guilty, don't I have self-esteem?When did I lose my self-esteem?I don't think that the environment faced by modern young people is full of more dangers than before, but I don't deny that, like the past, youth is the most challenging period in life.Fortunately, most of the dangers encountered during this period will naturally disappear as if by magic when they mature and assume the responsibilities of adulthood.Even so, before this natural change occurs, it is still obeyed by the Roman emperor Max.Lesson from Aurelis Never think that anything that breaks your word or loses your self-respect will be to your advantage.
When you saw the behavior of those friends, you were shocked, and you told me that you didn't want to be with them, and you also asked me how I could not be affected.Let me answer your question now!The best way to avoid this is to take a proactive approach.Before you get used to it, you can spend a lot of time with your best friends who are as unwilling as you are to embarrass your family.Failing that, it also helps a lot to have a moral and trustworthy friend by your side.It is very difficult for a person to fight alone in the face of a huge society.This kind of thing may be possible when you really grow up, but at this stage of growth, you still have a spiritual support to be more at ease, right?You may feel as helpless as a mouse when you are alone in a crowd.Even with just one friend, however, the security of having supporters in the company often pays off.This is also true in reverse. When your friends need your support, the same is true.
Another good prevention strategy for avoiding stigmatized behavior is to consider whether it is causing emotional pain to the family.Regardless of the embarrassment, loss of face, or monetary loss that would result from being sued, isn't it painful for each other (including you and your family) to think that your family will no longer respect you?Any action will bring results. Before you act, think carefully. This is the secret to maintaining self-esteem.
For friends who are facing crisis, if you do not try to rescue them, your self-esteem and conscience will definitely be traumatized.This is when you show your friendship with the spirit of sharing weal and woe. By helping those in need, a person's personality can be revealed.This time you were ordered to protect this friend from making the same mistake in the future, and I think this is your best chance to show friendship to this friend.The advice I want to give you here is that you must stare at everything about this friend in the future with infinite concern to see if he really has the sincerity of repentance.Because if you don't keep a close eye on it, there are people who revert to their old ways without intending to change their ways.You have to judge by his future attitude whether this friend is worth making, and whether it is worth your dedication to him.Let me stress here again that the best way to avoid unnecessary trouble is to be extremely careful in choosing your friends.
Believe I've told you already, you have to be principled when it comes to drinking.Drinking must be done only for the purpose of relaxation or a little pleasure, and must not lead to disaster.I'm sure you know pretty well how I feel about psychedelics.If I had to choose between psychedelic drugs and alcohol, I would only agree with alcohol.Because the main ingredient of wine is ordinary alcohol, even if you drink too much, your body has an adjustment function that can eliminate its influence within 24 hours.Humans know how to drink alcohol because of their long and accumulated experience with alcohol and its effects on the human body.The situation with psychedelics, however, is different.Leaving aside some special cases in Southeast Asia, the use of psychedelic drugs in human society is a recent thing.There are many types of psychedelic drugs, and the effects of the chemicals contained in any one of them on the human body have not been confirmed so far.As far as marijuana is concerned, it contains more than 400 chemical substances, some of which will remain in the body for a long time.The same goes for most other psychedelics (drugs), about which modern medicine has very limited knowledge.It is a known fact that alcoholics have a very high chance of recovery after abstaining from alcohol.However, whether people who abuse psychedelic drugs recover long-term health after quitting the deadly habit remains to be seen.Isn't this a terrible thing?
It has been argued that some hallucinogens do not produce a hangover and are therefore more desirable than alcohol.This is nonsense, and I hope you don't listen to it.This is baseless, horrific nonsense.A hangover is a warning from your body's defense system that you drank too much the night before.What good is it to you if you overdose on psychedelics (drugs) the night before, or have too many injections, and you don't have a system in your body that signals you to pay attention?
Let's have a good time at a party, and I have nothing against it.However, again, if you had to choose between booze and LSD, I hope you choose booze.Alcohol is not only less likely to harm your health, it is not prohibited by law (just, when you drink too much, I hope you must call home, and I will pick you up).
Sex can also cause problems.When the good Lord created us human beings, he gave us many good things, and the sexual impulse is one of them.However, the sexual desire that the Lord has poured into our body is too much. Many people think so, right?Otherwise, why is it so difficult to suppress emotions and try not to exceed the rules?However, those who can control themselves in this respect will surely be rewarded.That said, this person can take pride in being thoughtful and virtuous.In sex, like everything else in everyday life, it is important to consider the consequences of our actions and our own state of mind.After putting it into action, do you think you are doing the right thing?Or do you regret it?People who value themselves also value their bodies.
I can't say enough about self-esteem and the kinds of behaviors that damage, shatter, or destroy it.In a word, the most important thing is to know how to respect the value of self-esteem, and at the same time to recognize that self-esteem and the air we breathe are equally indispensable for a happy life.What is the difference between living without self-esteem and walking dead?
Nineteenth-century Scottish poet RobertStephenson once said: Everything in youth is an experiment.Choose your experiments carefully and wisely! (Smart is the word, I hope you look it up in the dictionary.)
love you
Father