Chapter 21 Youth Marriage Problems

The newspaper reported that a 27-year-old woman, Lin, graduated from the business department of National Taiwan University. She married a 35-year-old Chen, who had only an elementary school education, and started a small family. The woman realized that there were many inconsistencies, so she filed for divorce, but Chen still loved her and refused to break up. Lin felt that life was not fun, and she often lamented that there was no happiness in this life, so she found fault with herself and committed suicide. tragedy.But the acquaintances don't know why they got together in the first place?Think it was a wrong marriage from the beginning.

If it is said that the marriage is for money, but Chen claims to be a laborer for a living, Lin Nu must have known it before marriage, and the reason why she is still willing to marry him may be driven by love, but if there is true love , why can't you bear other sacrifices?If there were neither love nor money in the first place, how could they get married?If there is no other secret, it must be the unfortunate ending caused by the blind marriage of young people who are too free. However, considering the level of higher education that Lin Nu has, she should not be so confused mentally. The sages have said that at thirty people stand upright; at forty there is no confusion.Before the age of thirty, one's mind and thinking may not be fully mature, at least in terms of life experience and life experience, it is still not enough. This seems to be not directly proportional to the level of education. , or do not listen to the guidance of the elders at all, they will often suffer setbacks in many things, not only marriage issues.Leaving aside the above-mentioned inside story of the marriage tragedy between Lin Nv and Chen Mou, just looking at the current love and marriage situation of ordinary young men and women, there are still many people who are too free and indulgent. I can't control it; some even make the facts first and then ask the parents to ratify them, and so on. Of course, there are some people who are happy in the end, but most of them are unsatisfactory. Once it turns into a resentful couple, it makes it difficult for the parents to deal with it. Parents participated in the matter, and of course there was no way to rectify it later.In today's world, although the orders of the parents and the words of the matchmaker are a thing of the past, it is not only necessary but also beneficial to get the guidance of the parents (including all respected elders) in advance.As the saying goes, the elderly have traveled more roads than you, which indeed contains many truths about life and affairs.Free love has both advantages and disadvantages.

Everyone often compares marriage to a lifelong event, which shows that the success or failure of marriage is very important to a person's life.However, some young men and women today, although they still talk about the important things in their lives, they still hold the attitude of saying that it is not the case. The problem lies in this attitude. The result of sloppy is resentment; the result of impulsiveness is remorse; The result of blind marriage is more likely to cause tragedy, and lead to regret for life.