Chapter 22 modern couple

Open the newspaper every day, and see the classified advertisements from the news page, and you will always find a series of warnings about fleeing wives. These notices of husbands looking for wives, or children calling their mothers home, if you look closely at the content, almost all of them are the cause Disharmony between husband and wife; sometimes there are people who warn of marriage fraud. Why do modern couples in modern families have so many incidents of leaving in a fit of anger? There are certainly many reasons why it is difficult for upright officials to settle housework. The separation of families failed to establish the concept that modern husbands and wives must take joint responsibility for the small family.

Under the extended family system in the past, parents and parents-in-law were the heads of the family. Not only did they have a considerable degree of life experience in being the head of the family, but they also served as the main adjustment and buffer force between the younger generation and the daughter-in-law. , even if you can't say a word, you can try your best to resolve it, so that the words can be reconciled, so that you can feel at ease.However, who in a small family can take care of it?People in modern times are busy with their own affairs, don't care about other people's troubles, not to mention that the couple often don't want others to know their internal affairs, even the parents and in-laws who live in the other side don't want to talk about it.Therefore, between the husband and wife, no one can dominate, and both of them are the authority, and every time there is a small reason, the quarrel becomes more and more tense, and finally one party abandons the house and runs away.

From the perspective of modern people, the various old rituals are not 100% desirable, but if you can calmly weigh them, there are still many benefits. At least they can have a layer of protection for the daughter-in-law generation.Under this tradition, instead of being regarded as an unwilling dependence, why not regard a daughter-in-law as a desirable asylum?When the wind and rain come, and the small nest is not enough to shelter, who should we turn to besides ethical family affection? For couples in small families, freedom is of course freedom, but it is because they are too free, like chariots and horses without tracks and bridles. How can it be difficult for collisions to occur without giving way to each other?Without the intervention of the police, there would be no one to recuperate.Either because of the husband's absurdity or debauchery; or because of the wife's willfulness and stubbornness, the small family is broken up, and in the end both sides suffer!

The constraints of the old ethics are gone, and women will no longer depend on it, but in the case of independence and full freedom, what new power can replace it?As a husband and wife in a modern small family, have you ever asked yourself whether you have established the concept of joint responsibility between a modern family and a modern husband and wife?Going away in a fit of anger is tantamount to thinking that you are a loser who is not worthy of being a husband and wife in a modern small family. Husband and wife in modern small families are like two beams of a house, without which one will collapse.The happiness of a small family can only be created by the hands of the husband and wife. Tolerance and understanding, comfort and encouragement are important to both parties.Especially small family couples who already have children should be more sympathetic to their children.Think about it, the birth and growth of oneself have consumed so much time and painstaking efforts of parents, how can we be ashamed of being parents now?