Chapter 26 etiquette and demeanor

Etiquette is the crown of clothing, and demeanor is the glory of the crown. Clothes and splendor are loved by all. Etiquette and demeanor are the necessary and best cultivation in human life. Young people with etiquette and demeanor are the most beautiful young people. So it is said: the true beauty of a person lies in his demeanor; the beauty of demeanor comes from the heart.Inner beauty lies in a noble character. Demeanor is a fairly abstract concept, but generally speaking, the higher the character, the more praiseworthy the demeanor. Demeanor must be based on external appearance, but external appearance is not entirely dependent on innate posture, but more importantly, it also depends on acquired education.

We often hear people say that someone has good demeanor and someone has bad demeanor, but how to figure out and experience this abstract adjective? Some people say that being quiet and free and easy is a good demeanor.But this is also the hardest thing to grasp to get the benefits. If it is too late or too late, it will easily become vulgar or sluggish, or it will become withdrawn, which is not beautiful. It is also easy for people to understand if we want to turn abstract demeanor into actions that are easier to practice, or we can use etiquette to express the brilliance of demeanor naturally.

The so-called etiquette is also called politeness.Politeness can not only show demeanor, but also a key to friendship.For example, it is always pleasant to praise others appropriately.The so-called appropriateness means that it cannot be too far away from the truth, nor can it be completely devoid of sincerity.Because if you praise her beauty in front of an ugly woman; if you praise his nobleness in front of a humble person, it will become a tease, and you will be hated by the other party. In the hustle and bustle of social crowds, it is necessary to maintain the relationship with politeness.The man who can maintain the best manners must also be the man who is easy to get along with, and who is always and everywhere happy.

Young people should pay attention to some small details of life, the main ones are nothing more than the following points: 1. Don’t lose your dignity: Most young people have a naive and lively temperament, but if they are not controlled properly, they will easily become frivolous and arrogant, so that they will gradually lose their dignity. Over time, they may also be contaminated with other bad habits. 2. Stand dignifiedly: Young people should have the spirit of indomitable spirit. If they stand like bows and poles or shrink their necks and shrug their shoulders, or talk like countless strings of unthreaded beads, or are angry and silent, it is a bad life. shortcoming.

3. Talk less and listen more: There is a proverb that says: Words are silver, and silence is gold.Talking too much is always harmful.Regardless of whether it is ancient or modern, Chinese or foreign, people who like to talk and talk are always unpopular. Young people, no matter on any occasion, it is best to listen more, watch more and speak less.Because young people do not have enough experience and experience, it is not appropriate to talk about everything indiscriminately. 4. Correct appearance: The reason why human beings wear clothes is to correct their appearance and increase human dignity.Therefore, you should not look weird and dress up in strange clothes.Clothes don't have to be gorgeous to show a person's beauty, but the real beauty lies in good etiquette.

Etiquette and demeanor are so important to people's self-cultivation, and they should be cultivated in youth, so I will say it again Etiquette is the crown of clothing, and demeanor is the glory of the crown; Clothes and splendor are loved by all. Etiquette and demeanor are the best cultivation necessary in human life; Young people with etiquette and demeanor are the most beautiful young people. (Written in July 1950)