Chapter 57 Good promise

In modern industrial society, the pace of everything is fast, and people's fortunes are fleeting. Any entrustment should not be taken lightly. The old habit of pretending to be perfunctory to the requester in order to be decent and smooth can no longer be applied to Modern society and the way of making friends. I have heard different parties talk about their own painful lessons more than once, and they are exactly the same.Because there is something that asks someone to help, and it does not involve money, but only verbal coordination or close talk, the trustee made a promise in person, but then he did not help others, and there was no response, even after the parties concerned When I asked about it, I sometimes still answered the story in vain. As a result, the precious time for important things was delayed, and the earnest hopes turned into nothing. It is really misleading and harmful!

One person said with emotion that if there is no generous commitment from someone first, he can ask others to help, or he will not make mistakes again and again, and even miss the opportunity to make up for it.Therefore, he thought about it, and the lessons he got are: when someone asks someone for something, if the other party refuses bluntly, or expresses helplessness, or expresses uncertainty and tells you not to expect too much, you should not only No wonder, in fact, you should be grateful and regard him as a good person, at least he won't miss your business and harm you. Lao Tzu said: A husband who is light on promises must be trustworthy.Many people may have had this kind of experience, but they may still be fooled. The reason is that it is difficult to know people well, and they clearly think that the other party can do something, or that friendship is enough to do something. It's up to you, but the other party didn't take it seriously after promising.The factors in this may be very complicated, including that your situation is not as good as his, or that you have no real interest in each other, and you may be indifferent to your entrustment, but you have to make a false promise first, then You deserve the delay.

Zeng Zi said: I examine myself three times a day, am I not loyal to others?Don't believe in making friends?Looking at today's world, how many modern people living in modern society are willing to do such introspection?One promise, one promise, has almost become a historical term. When it comes to promises, there should be double meanings. One is that the promiser should keep his promise, which is as valuable as a thousand pieces of gold; the other is that the relationship with the promisee may be as important as a thousand pieces of gold. How can people's ardent expectations be taken for granted? ?

There is a big difference between a clear refusal and a false promise, and once you break your promise to a friend, the promiser may not feel much, but it is likely to cause the greatest regret in his life to the promisee, which fully proves that you are not good at friends. Loyalty is the biggest shortcoming of being a human being. Sage Bacon also said: False friendship is like the shadow around you. When you are in the sun, it will follow you closely, but when you are in the dark, it will leave you immediately.Some people who behave lightly and shyly towards their friends, are their carelessness caused by this?