Chapter 7 Don't run away when you are desperate

In the moment of desolation, you can stay and clean up the mess for yourself and face reality. It means that a person has fully accepted himself and is willing to take 100% responsibility for his actions. Spanish writer Cervantes said: Those who lose wealth lose a lot.However, those who lose their courage are all over! There are many ways to show courage Knowing shame is almost brave!This is the exhortation left to us by the ancients.It is indeed not easy to know the mistakes and correct them. Sacrifice yourself to save others!It is not easy to completely ignore personal death and life. Mount Tai collapsed in front of him without changing his color!This is another kind of bravery.

Looking at these kinds of people give a thumbs up and praise!There is an attitude towards life that seriously faces setbacks and difficulties. In the moment of desolation, being able to stay and clean up the mess for yourself, facing the reality, it seems nothing to say, but what you can do is truly amazing!It represents a person who fully accepts himself and is willing to take 100% responsibility for his actions.Of course, it is also because of this that we can have a strong belief in the future and be able to start again. Whether intentional or unintentional, whether it is discovered by oneself or corrected by others, it does not matter whether it is a fault caused by oneself or caused by others. When wrong records are exposed to the sun, the reaction of most people is to escape intuitively.

The child who lost the game of poker suddenly pushed down the poker table at the moment when the winner was decided. Pupils who didn't do their homework started playing truant after being discovered by their teachers. The husband who started having an affair was suspected by his wife, and he was even less willing to go home. Those who failed to repay their debts were chased by their creditors and had to leave their hometowns.The suspect who committed the crime was wanted and kept on the run Fear, which gives people the power of action, turned back and started to flee the scene!In the world left behind, all problems will not disappear automatically, and the traces of frustration will always remain on the wall of time.No matter how far he can escape, one day, he will come back to face all this.Why bother to waste your youth and affect more innocent people.

The reality that dare not face; make mistakes and make mistakes When I was about three or four years old, I often went to play with my cousin at the house of my aunt who lived nearby.It is conceivable how naughty two young boys will be together. One day, the eldest aunt told her mother that the high-end wooden wardrobe she was dowry had been engraved with hairpins by someone, and she asked her to see if it was my masterpiece? I really can’t remember the real process of committing the crime. What still impresses me is that I refused to admit it, and cried so hard that I didn’t want to talk about it with my mother at all.

A few days later, the parents probably thought it was all right, and made an appointment with the whole family of five to go to the aunt's house.My mother and two older sisters were walking, and I, the youngest, sat on a rattan chair specially set up for children in front of my father's bicycle, and let my father carry it. When I was approaching the door of my aunt's house, I suddenly remembered this embarrassing incident, and started crying endlessly, resolutely refusing to enter her house. The adults may not be able to figure out what is going on with this child, so the helpless father had no choice but to go for a walk outside while carrying the self-willed and unreasonable me.At that time, my aunt lived near Taiwan University, and Xinsheng South Road was still a big ditch with rice fields on both sides.In the dark night, I leaned on my father's thin but strong shoulders and cried non-stop for at least three or four hours. When I was tired, I fell asleep on my father's shoulders.

When I woke up, the scene had changed to the living room of my aunt's house. She was afraid that I would cry again, so she no longer mentioned the matter of engraving letters for the wardrobe to arrest the murderer.Growing up, I still brood on this.Although I really can't remember what happened when I committed the crime, it has always been a burden in my heart for thirty years. Now that I am nearly middle-aged, whenever I make a mistake and encounter setbacks, or feel wronged by others' misunderstanding, I think of my father's shoulders and the tears of guilt that I fell on them.

Facing setbacks saves more effort than escaping from reality Later life experience told me that although the world is big, there is nowhere to escape!People can't escape their own hearts, and finally they have to come back and face themselves. I often think that if I could go back more than 30 years ago, I would rather bravely step into the crime scene, do a scene reconstruction, and then clarify the facts, or bravely admit my mistakes!I believe that I will live a more relaxed life, and the relationship with my aunt's family will be closer. In school, in career, in the dark corners of love, there are many people who run away.After they encounter setbacks or grievances, they have to escape to cigarettes, alcohol, or another mistake.It is often only when it is too late to realize it; instead of spending so much effort to escape, it is better to face the mistake sincerely.

After all, it takes much less effort to earnestly cross a level than to escape endlessly!