Chapter 24 Beware of the Dilemma

The so-called adventure refers to: making complete preparations for all possibilities, and then going all out.It's not about teaching people to die by just relying on the courage of their flesh and blood. In life, there are many things that are difficult to have the best of both worlds.Among them, the dilemma is more difficult than the dilemma.When faced with a dilemma, at least you can choose that I don't want anything! ; The dilemma is to let myself get stuck in the middle helplessly, unable to move.Between advance and retreat, either hurt others or harm oneself. Most dilemmas are self-inflicted and no one to blame.I had no choice but to retreat to my own line of defense with the feeling that a gentleman has the beauty of an adult.But there are also times when you are tempted by others and let yourself fall into the trap of a dilemma.Walking on the road of life, you might as well pay attention to these signs, and don't let yourself be caught in a dilemma because of temporary courage and lack of plan.

In the evening when the lights were just on, and it was raining heavily, I drove to the sheep intestine path that I must pass in front of my house.In the distance, I saw a Type 125 locomotive coming rapidly from the opposite side.Immediately, the two white sheep and black sheep that met on the single-plank bridge in the elementary school textbooks came to mind, but they were not polite to each other. I drive cautiously, and I don’t want to fall into the river of textbooks in my impression. It’s not really for etiquette, but to protect and understand myself.So, we paused in front of the alley where we could barely meet cars.I rolled down the car window, signaling to let him go forward, but unexpectedly, the other party rode the motorcycle to a small slightly recessed place in the middle of the alley on his own initiative, and then stopped moving. He insisted on choosing to meet the car there.

He shouted loudly: OK!No problem, let's go!Must pass!His seduction and provocation worked! In a single thought, the foolishness to take a risk defeated the rationality that was absolutely impossible.I put down the handle of the handbrake and slowly slid the car into the place he designated to meet the car. Finally, very smoothly (ironic enough!) to get myself stuck in a dilemma. His body was wedged tightly between the front and rear wheels on the left side of my car.It's over!It will definitely pass!This time, his tone sounded no longer purely encouraging, but full of gloating teasing.When I slightly let go of the brake pedal with my right foot and let the car slide ten centimeters at a very slow speed, I heard the harsh sound of metal friction.

I stuck my head out in the heavy rain and saw that instead of tilting the locomotive to his right to dodge, he deliberately stabbed the sharp corner of the license plate at the rear end of the locomotive to the hem of my car. The scratches of ten centimeters were clearly reflected. The street lights flickered mournfully.Before I got out of the car to check, he had already left. Some things can't be solved by courage or perseverance alone In my life experience, I have encountered this kind of person and this kind of thing a lot, and I have learned not to get angry with him and accept what has happened.But in order to avoid making the same mistake again next time, I can't help but review myself: How could I fall into such a dilemma?

Do what you know you can't do!This sentence obviously does not apply to all situations.Maybe perseverance can win a one in ten thousand chance, and make the originally slim hope and dream come true.However, with courage alone, there is absolutely no way to make things that violate the principles possible.The distance between cars that is obviously not wide enough will not become passable just because of the refueling or challenges of strangers.How can I blame the other party for being untrustworthy when I am so naive that I am almost stupid! Life does require the spirit of taking risks, but the so-called adventure refers to: preparing for all kinds of possibilities, and then going all out.It's not about teaching people to die by just relying on the courage of their flesh and blood.

After all, escaping death with wisdom and jumping into a fire pit with eyes closed are two completely different things, so don't confuse them.Otherwise, you will fall into a dilemma, or even a hopeless situation beyond redemption. Better to admit loss in time; than to be stuck in mistakes all the time That night, I finally felt that I had new life wisdom and felt a little comforted.I didn't expect to receive a phone call and it would come in handy immediately.These days, there are not a few people who are as foolish as me. A female friend who works in an advertising company called me to complain.Six months ago, she had an office romance, and the supervisor she fell in love with was a married man.Before they had an intimate act, she also solemnly said: From now on, I will be jealous of you with other women.The other party did not speak.

She interpreted his silence as acquiescence, and wishful thinking: he would slowly find a way to divorce his wife for her sake. They had a close relationship, and she also lent hundreds of thousands of yuan to help him overcome the difficulties of not being able to pay the mortgage.However, under her persecution, he confessed that he didn't want to divorce his wife at all! what to do?I've been caught between a rock and a hard place.Leaving him is a loss of money and people, and I am very unwilling.If you continue to consume it, there will be no results, and you will lose more.she says.

People who are in a dilemma, actually know very well how this somersault fell.Those who are willing to admit their losses early are still smart people.People who are stuck in the middle and still calculating their gains and losses and unable to get out are the most pitiful.Money or dignity, though valuable, are not as expensive as youth.You might as well think about the future, bear all the mistakes, and rely on your own strength to climb out of the dangerous valley of the dilemma.