Chapter 25 No noise, no fuss, and sweets

Gaining the long-term respect of others and letting others worry about you all the time are two completely different things.Although it looks the same to get the attention of the other party, the way of thinking is completely different. The obedient card in the eyes of everyone, if you start to learn to be bad, it is often because you have been ignored for too long on weekdays, and your psychology is unbalanced, so you come to counter it and strive for an opportunity to be treated equally. Obediently learn to be bad, you have to be pretty bad and have personality, but you have to pay attention to the bad skills. It is not enough to attract attention on the surface, but a positive force must erupt from the inside, so that people can impress others and dare not underestimate you. It's amazing.

When watching a Japanese TV program, a girl with a nose ring and 21 ear piercings shyly said to the camera: I am a good-looking card in the eyes of my parents. Even my boyfriend thinks I have no personality. It is really boring, so I want to dress myself up a little bit. In her short speech, she expressed a lot of obedient feelings.People who have been positioned as obedient cards for a long time can get verbal rewards at the beginning, but after a long time, they will be ignored. Since everyone puts their energy into solving people with problems, the guaiguai card becomes ordinary and has no voice because it is too reassuring.

When the obedient card becomes mischievous; it's just trying to attract others' attention In the classroom, in the office, and in love, there are many such worry-free obedient cards. At first, they used their good behavior as a bargaining chip and weapon to fight for welfare. Unfortunately, the world is not a kindergarten when they grow up. No one will help him pin the badge of a good baby on his chest, and gradually feel that he has been ignored. After adding the example of eating candy and being noisy, no matter how obedient the usual obedient card is, it will start to move around and want to learn to be bad.But it is difficult for them to succeed. The embarrassing incidents of painting tigers that fail to become anti-dogs often happen.

After marriage, she has been concentrating on caring for her husband and raising her children, but she gradually realizes that her husband's life is not focused on her, and even wonders whether he is having an affair, which is troubled. One afternoon, she sent the child back to her mother's house, and bravely stepped into the Japanese-style hairdressing salon alone, and got a very stage-like curly hair with colorful colors.I spent the savings of the past few months to buy two sets of famous brand evening dresses. When I went back to my mother's house to pick up the child at night, the baby in the swaddling doll couldn't recognize her own mother and cried loudly.Her mother asked her in Hokkien without understanding: Ah, are you An Na Nong Ga? (meaning: how did you make yourself into such a virtue?)

She was not confident enough in the first place, but this encounter has already frustrated her very much.Going home and facing her husband who was off work, from his expression of trying to calm down but still couldn't help laughing, she finally completely collapsed! Locking herself in the room and crying all night, she asked herself aggrievedly: Why?Why?Am I destined to be an obedient card that no one will pay attention to me? Don't use good as a bargaining chip, and don't use bad as a weapon Obedient card, in fact, there is nothing wrong, there is no need to be so sad.Phrases for investment and financial management: Be obedient and have a certain basic market.For example: harmonious interpersonal relationship, good adaptability to the environment, etc.The disadvantage is that it is too reassuring, and it is easy to be ignored in the long run.

If you want to become an obedient card that is respected by others, the first condition is to respect yourself first.Don't use being good as a bargaining chip. In order to get appreciation, you dare not speak up, and dare not speak up if you have objections.Be obedient so that you have opinions and opinions, and put forward your own ideas and suggestions in a timely manner in a positive way, instead of deliberately making yourself an unreasonable opposition party. There are two completely different things between gaining the long-term respect of others and making people worry about you all the time.Although it looks the same to get the attention of the other party, the way of thinking is completely different.

The former is positive and positive, which is good for yourself and others.In the process of such interaction, both parties can grow. The latter is negative and negative, which is bad for yourself and others.You come and go, consuming each other's energy in vain, spending all your youth on solving emotional problems, and only willing to showdown when both parties are tired! At that time, there is no point in playing the good card or continuing to play tricks. Who cares about you?