Chapter 28 Don't be afraid of being wronged, just lose big

We can refuse to allow ourselves to be snobbish; but a certain amount of savvy does help maintain good relationships. If you can speak clearly about money matters, it is best to speak clearly in advance. This is not the same thing as caring. You can ask clearly, but don't care about it.But don't ask because you don't care.Not being polite, seems to preserve the temporary sympathy, but if there is a gap in cognition in the future, not only will it hurt each other's rights, but even the most basic sympathy will be lost. For example, when you are looking for a job to participate in the company interview, you must ask about the salary and benefits before you decide to take the job. You can politely say: compare the company's standards.But be sure to ask what the company's standards are?

If you are too fussy about your salary during the interview, it will disgust the supervisor, and you may even lose the chance of being hired; but if you don’t talk about the salary at all, it will also make the supervisor think that you are not very serious about the job. , may also be ruled out. Make it clear up front so you don't feel uncomfortable afterwards The older Chinese were indeed more kind. Before doing their best for others, they didn't take the initiative to ask for compensation. Both parties cooperated on the premise that they would not treat others badly. After the cooperation is completed, if the payer can give more according to the market price and express his gratitude, the recipient must be very satisfied and everyone will be happy.But if the one who gives is stingy, or the one who receives is greedy, the friendly relationship does not exist.

Many years ago, I left a company because of a career change. On the last day of work, the boss called me into his office and said in a kind-hearted tone: You are a very Chinese kid. What he meant was that compared to some kids in the company who would clamor for candy, my style of not being noisy and therefore having no candy obviously couldn't be mixed.Although, I really don't feel that I have been treated badly by my boss, but compared to the benefits that other colleagues have won, it is obviously a big loss! After working in the society for several years, I found that a conscientious boss like him is really worthy of praise.Because, more and more people use other people's politeness to dominate the other party.

The water pipes in a friend’s house were blocked, so he introduced a plumber through a neighbor. He thought: there should be no problem with the introduction from an acquaintance. After 30 minutes of repairing, the asking price was 3,000 yuan.The friend was taken aback and asked him: I heard that it is usually one thousand or two thousand. The plumber couldn't control his temper and said: You didn't see that I was sweating profusely. It's more difficult for you, and the charge will be doubled. I believe that neither of them is wrong.There are certain market trends in the market, but there are also exceptions. If we can make it clear in advance, there will be no disputes afterwards.

It’s not vulgar when money is involved; if money is not clear, both parties will lose more There are often corporate agencies or public relations companies who are invited to participate in public symposiums or speeches. The entire symposium activities are written in great detail in the business plan, but there is no mention of whether the sponsor will provide remuneration or travel expenses. Since the activity itself takes two and a half hours, it will take at least ten hours if the round-trip transportation time is included, excluding the preparation time.I politely asked the other party if they would provide remuneration, and the colleague in charge of the contact work shyly said: Yes, but not much, so I am embarrassed to say.In the end, he still had to tell me the numbers.

Although, I will not use remuneration or car expenses as the only reference index when deciding whether to agree to the other party, but I think it is necessary to make it clear that this is the basic respect for professionalism. The style of some profit-making units is even more ridiculous.Obviously it is an event that charges audiences, but it deliberately puts up the signboard of public welfare, and then asks others to contribute their efforts for free. Regarding this point, my personal opinion is: the remuneration should still be provided according to the normal situation, and it is up to the parties to decide whether to donate it or not.

Favors are one thing; interests are another. Regardless of whether it is between a supervisor and a subordinate, or between a manufacturer and an individual, both sides of the cooperation must first distinguish between human relationships and rights.If the two must be mixed together, good intentions will be wasted for nothing, and those who have suffered have to learn to be shrewd. We can refuse to allow ourselves to be snobbish; but a certain amount of savvy does help maintain good relationships. The premise of believing that the other party will not treat you badly, and that we will not suffer too much, is to clarify in advance the way and standard of treating each other, rather than based on your own guesses or the other party's attitude.

On the contrary, if you want to invite better people to do things for you or cooperate with you, it is very important to discuss the remuneration clearly in advance.Never feel vulgar because of things involving money, and you are embarrassed to say it.And don't deliberately avoid talking about it because you don't have the budget or the salary is small. Right money, not dirty, nothing to talk about.If you have no money, you don't have to feel inferior, you can use other incentives to attract him to participate in the cooperation.For example: sense of accomplishment, social significance, being able to meet other outstanding elites, etc.

Most of the invited professionals may not take the initiative to ask, but if the remuneration part has not been mentioned during the contact process, he will intuitively think that the organizer is not professional enough, or judge that this is a gratuitous contribution. And directly declined to participate in the cooperation.It is definitely a loss for both parties because they did not clarify the money matter, resulting in the inability to cooperate.