Chapter 34 To manage time is to be kind to life

Return to your own values, how you treat your own life, you will choose what kind of life. Modern people are busy with work and every second counts.Time management has become a very important issue.However, many people fight for a while, but they may not win forever. The reason is that I have not figured out the ultimate goal of time management. In fact, it is to let myself have a high-quality life, not to buy more time to do more things. In principle, I think time management is life management.What we want to manage is not the scale on the clock, but the relationship between people and time.

The meaning of time to people will vary greatly due to different life stages and environments. For example, I travel a lot, and the rhythm of time is completely different in Tokyo, Hong Kong, Shanghai, and Turpan in Xinjiang.In Tokyo, the time may be so accurate that it must be counted in seconds; when I traveled in Turpan, I found that the meaning of time to the locals may be just the seasonal concept of when grapes can be harvested. Master the sense of rhythm and follow your own values Time, every minute and every second, has certain rules, but depending on the feelings of the parties, sometimes it passes quickly and sometimes it passes slowly. I call it the rhythm of time.

I think: to learn to manage time, the most important thing is to master this sense of rhythm; in order to do the most appropriate thing at the most appropriate time.And, prolong the happy time; shorten the dull time. If we are lucky, we should also have this very similar sense of time rhythm with our partners who live or work together. In terms of time control and direction, many conflicts can be avoided.For example: a professional woman who intends to continue her studies in her spare time, if her husband and children support her further studies, the family will have a close sense of time rhythm, and they can cooperate with each other, and life will be more beautiful Multiple spaces.

When using time properly, you should first ask yourself what are you spending so much time on?This involves the issue of values, which determine our priorities in doing things. Thoreau, the author of "Scattered Notes by the Lake", said: Don't undertake thousands of things in one hand, it is best to limit yourself to two or three.Don't expect to manage everything every day, five or six are enough!However, for these few things in hand, you must do what you say, sword and shoes! I've seen those words no fewer than five times in my formative years.But it wasn't until a few years ago that my mother suffered a stroke from a brain stem hemorrhage that changed the way I lived, that I realized what it really meant.

Before this incident happened, I was a workaholic. I got up at 5 o'clock every morning. In addition to morning swimming, I was working and spending two hours writing at night.Now, looking back, it's incredible. I lived this mechanical and regular life for seven or eight years.But I don't regret it. The values ​​of each stage of life are different. At that time, I felt that work and making money were the most important things to me.But now, I think family affection is more important to me.If I don't grasp it, I may never have a chance. Every day when I woke up, as long as I saw the sun outside the house, I would hold my mother's hand and take her to a nearby park for a walk and bask in the sun.I'd rather take less consulting work, make a lot less money, and live a different kind of life.

Make adjustments flexibly and observe the stages of life Looking back, before the age of twenty-five, I was mostly preparing for the financial foundation of my family, and how I wanted to earn more money every day; between the age of twenty-five and thirty-five, I spent time on myself In addition to work, I also learn professional skills, travel, paint, and do what I want. After the age of thirty-five, I expect myself to live for others.Contribute the accumulated life energy to others, starting with family members, and then help others if you have spare capacity. Of course, everyone has their own ideas, and the division of life stages and the meaning of each stage are different.Confucius said that at thirty one stands upright, at forty there is no confusion, at fifty one listens to one's ears, at sixty one knows the destiny of heaven, at seventy one follows one's heart's desires without transgressing rules.It is a state that not everyone can achieve, and it is not necessarily necessary to force yourself to follow.

You can refer to the biographies of successful people, and you can also look for clues about their achievements at various stages in their lives from the biographies of great people. They must have a certain degree of inspiration, but they are not absolutely the only indicators.The most important thing is to return to your own values. How you treat your life will determine what kind of life you choose.What time management gives us is the concept of being kind to life, not the skills of counting every second.