Chapter 19 Express your opinions and suggestions tactfully

On the top of the mountain lived a wise man with a snow-white beard, and no one could tell how old he was.Men, women and children respect him very much. No matter who encounters big or small things, they all come to him and ask him for advice.But the wise man always said with a smile: What advice can I offer? On this day, another young man came to ask him for advice. The wise man still politely declined, but the young man persisted.The wise man had no choice but to bring two narrow pieces of wood, two pinches of nails, one pinch of screws, and one pinch of straight nails.In addition, he brought a hammer head, a pair of pliers, and an awl.

He first used a hammer head to drive straight nails to the wooden strip, but the wooden strip was very hard. He tried a lot, but he couldn't nail it in. Instead, the nail was bent and had to be replaced.After a while, several nails were bent by him. Finally, he took the nail with the pliers, and hit it hard with the hammerhead, so that the nail went twisting and twisting into the wood.But all his efforts were wasted, for the stick was also split in two. The wise man picked up the screw, awl and hammer head again, and he smashed the nail on the wooden board lightly, then picked up the screw and used the awl to screw it up.

The wise man pointed to the two wooden boards and smiled: "Good advice doesn't have to be harsh, and good medicine doesn't have to be bitter. The bad advice and good medicine that people talk about are actually stupid ways of fools."What are the benefits of head-to-head?The person who said it was angry, and the person who listened was angry. In the end, the peace was hurt, the kindness turned into indifference, and the friendship turned into hatred.I have only one experience in my life, and that is never to give advice directly to anyone.When I need to point out the mistakes of others, I will express my opinions and suggestions as tactfully as a screw.

★Life is delicious★ Good advice doesn’t have to be harsh, and good medicine doesn’t have to be bitter. In interpersonal communication, you must learn to express your opinions and suggestions as tactfully as a screw.In this way, you can achieve your own goals without destroying your own interpersonal relationships, which is really killing two birds with one stone.