Chapter 38 2. Problems are opportunities for growth

Problems not only bring trouble, but often lead to important opportunities.First of all, for our growth, the problem is a good growth opportunity. (1) Encounters are not good news to the wise It is a common psychology of people to like to hear affirmation and praise from others, but not to hear criticism.However, for the wise, meeting others who say no is often an opportunity for growth. Hara Ippei was one of Japan's greatest salesmen.Public opinion evaluates his smile as a million-dollar smile.But when he first became a salesman, he also experienced various difficulties.In his autobiography, he talked about an important opportunity for his growth.

Once he went to a certain temple to sell insurance, and a monk named Yoshida received him very warmly.Seeing the monk listening to his lobbying very patiently, Yuan Yiping secretly rejoiced, thinking that this sales promotion must be sure.Unexpectedly, when he was the happiest, the monk popped out such a sentence: people, it is best to have something memorable when you meet for the first time, otherwise, you will not achieve anything in your life. The monk's words were like a slap in the face, waking up the complacent Yuan Yiping.He immediately asked the monk for advice, and the monk gave him advice: stare at yourself nakedly, introspect thoroughly without reservation, and only then can you know yourself.The specific method is: ask others for advice, especially to customers.

Although the sale failed, Yuan Yiping got the best guidance.For this reason, he specially organized a Yuan Yiping Criticism Meeting, spent his own money, invited a group of customers, and gave himself opinions on a regular basis.Even if he is so poor that he sometimes has to go to a pawn shop, he will not save a penny of the money spent on criticism meetings. The opinions put forward by customers are invaluable, and he is more and more aware of his weaknesses.Every time there is a criticism session, he feels like he has been peeled off.But it was also through repeated criticism meetings that he began to remove his bad roots little by little.

Yuan Yiping's potential has been greatly explored. He has learned how to overcome weaknesses, how to turn weaknesses into strengths, how to deal with rejection to gain greater trust from others, how to treat customers with a neither humble nor humble attitude, and how to smile etc.His performance began to rise sharply, and he won the performance competition held by the company every week. Yuan Yiping's criticism session lasted for a total of six years. After that, he paid a survey company to investigate his impression among customers.He said: All my life, I have fully enjoyed the sweetness of spending money to buy criticism.

Without this failed sales experience, would Yuan Yiping have been so shocked and worked hard to improve himself?Without this failed sales experience and continuous improvement on this basis, can he become the god of sales? Others will not expose their own shortcomings and weaknesses, and will avoid their one-sidedness, so that they can see the truth more clearly, thereby prompting themselves to continuously improve. (2) Only by facing the truth can we truly grow Everyone is afraid to see their own vulnerability, incompetence, and childishness.However, to avoid facing these is to avoid growth.Only real confrontation will bring about real growth.

Since modern times, the great self-confidence of human beings has suffered three huge blows: The first time: It was originally thought that the home of human beings on earth is the center of the universe, which was shattered by Copernicus’ theory of the center of the sun; the second time, that human beings are the species of living things and the master of all things, was shattered by Darwin Humans just evolved from monkeys, and they are just the latest chain in the long chain of biological evolution on the earth; for the third time, people are considered to be the masters of their own minds, but Freud's subconscious theory shattered it again. All psychology and behavior are not only dominated by consciousness, but also by the subconscious that you cannot clearly grasp!

The proposal of each of the above-mentioned theories was suspected of deviant at the time, which caused an uproar. Some people who supported this true theory even paid the price of their lives (for example, Bruno was burned to death in on the cross).But after human beings finally accepted these truths step by step, they made a leap every time: Only with the revolution of astronomy did people really go into space; after studying the theory of evolution, it was possible for people to study human genes; Better develop a healthy personality. (3) Only by admitting weaknesses can we grow Lincoln, known as the greatest president in American history, was a reckless thorn in his youth who liked to blame and laugh at others.

Once, Lincoln wrote an article to the local newspaper, mocking a man named James.Sears people.After the article came out, Sears approached Lincoln for a duel.Fortunately, at the critical moment of the duel, the helpers of both sides stepped forward to stop it, and a desperate fight was avoided. This incident taught Lincoln a great lesson.Although he is usually calm in situations, when faced with such a life-and-death struggle, he can't help being terrified.If something unexpected happens, it's really not worth it for him who has great ambitions. After experiencing this incident, his personality underwent a drastic change, and he no longer laughed at others, nor blamed others easily.Later, Lincoln was rated as one of the most sincere and kind leaders.

If Lincoln still laughed at others unscrupulously as before, would he still be the greatest president of the United States one day? Take any negation of yourself as a warning and an opportunity to improve yourself!Only in this way, we will be more mature, stronger and more confident! (4) Dao Power Needs Magic Power A person's inner potential can be stimulated to the greatest extent in adversity.A person's upward ability is often also strengthened in the process of fighting various insults and pains.This is what conventional wisdom refers to as the way to increase your strength. Strength requires magic.

Bakla was interested in science experiments when he was in middle school.Through the introduction of others, he was allowed to observe and study in a laboratory, and the staff liked him very much.There was a summer vacation where he spent almost every day there.He secretly made up his mind that he would be an excellent physicist or chemist in the future. However, just one day before the end of the summer vacation, Barkla met the eldest grandson of the factory owner who invested in the laboratory.Not only did this guy not let him come here, he even slapped him hard.The most infuriating thing is that those staff members who are usually good to him have also changed their faces. Not only did they not uphold justice for him, they even asked Bakla's father to apologize to the boss' grandson!

Barkla was so angry that he fell ill.His parents comforted him: It is indeed wrong for people to bully others, but don't lose your confidence because of this.You have superhuman physical and chemical talents, the world is so big, I believe you can make achievements anywhere! He was greatly motivated and determined to make great achievements to wash away this shame and humiliation.At the age of twenty-five, Barkla became a professor at the British Academy.Unexpectedly, the grandson of the factory owner who insulted him back then became his student.Bakla didn't bother with him, but the other party felt ashamed, and after only one class, he transferred to another school and left. At the age of twenty-eight, Barkla discovered that each element emits a characteristic spectrum of X-rays.For this, he won the 1917 Nobel Prize in Physics. Before we succeed, we often encounter discrimination, humiliation and unfair treatment, which makes us both sad and angry.But neither sadness nor anger solves anything.A good practice is to be self-reliant and to use practical actions to prove that you cannot be underestimated.Bakla's success has proved a very simple truth: it is better to be angry than to be angry. Bakla's success also proves a principle of success: every obstacle inspires firm determination, and those who keep their eyes on the stars will not change their minds. Roman.Roland said it well: Only those from the bottom can pass on their beliefs to the peak of the spirit.Only through purgatory can the road to heaven be opened. Let's not be afraid of questions!Let's not be afraid of being rejected!Let us not be afraid of encountering unimaginable difficulties!Because encountering problems and difficulties is an opportunity for growth.Encountering negation is to make us work harder and be more sure of our own life!