Chapter 59 Ninth Fourth Technique: Appellation must be appropriate

How to address each other in a conversation may seem like a trivial matter, but it is actually a lot of knowledge.Appropriate addressing can shorten the distance between two people, strengthen the intimacy, and make the conversation go on naturally and harmoniously; if the address is inappropriate or wrong, it will definitely cause the other party's displeasure, and even make it impossible to talk. How should it be called to be decent and appropriate? Generally speaking, men are referred to as Mr.Women should be divided into married and unmarried; married women can be called Mrs. or Mrs., but teachers' wives should not be called Mrs. but Shimu to show respect; unmarried women are collectively called Miss.If someone introduces you, you should use the title used by the introducer.

If they are called by their titles, military and political officers can be referred to as officers without their surnames.For the president, manager, and supervisor of the company, in addition to their titles, they can also add their surnames or the word "Mr.", which is more cordial. When dealing with relatives and friends, in addition to being classified as elders, peers sometimes call them by their first names, which will receive a cordial effect.Treating drivers, waiters and other public servants, sometimes calling him brother, friend, etc., will make the other party feel extra cordial and serve you more thoughtfully.

There is also a nickname, which shows that the relationship is quite close, otherwise it is difficult to say it. For example, Yasuhiro Nakasone, who has just taken office as Prime Minister of Japan, can be called by nicknames when he went to the United States to talk with President Reagan.Of course, these nicknames are all abbreviations of their original names. It can be seen that Nakasone Yasuhiro wanted to emphasize the talks in an intimate and friendly atmosphere.This incident became a popular story in the market for a while. Another example.Eisaku Sato, another former Prime Minister of Japan, was born in a bureaucracy, so it was difficult for him to get close to ordinary people, so he always tried to push himself among the people, so he often said to people:

I love when people call me Ah Wing. From a psychological point of view, when two people get closer psychologically, their address will naturally change from title to surname to first name.However, there are also some people who have not met each other for a long time and are not considered close, but if he wants to get closer to the other party, he may as well call him by his first name or nickname. Some civilization names in ancient my country can still be used today.Such as Ling: Lingzun (father), Lingtang (mother), Lingzi (son), Lingyan (female).Expensive: your house, your surname, your school, your company.Da: Dazuo, Dazha, daimyo, etc.

On the contrary, self-proclaiming should be modest, commonly used are: my person, my factory, and my house.Clumsy: humble work, humble opinion, clumsy pen, etc. Be extremely cautious when calling someone by their nickname.Just like showing friendliness among close friends of the same generation, the elders express affection for the younger generation, saying that they will feel extra cordial.If it has a sarcastic and insulting meaning, you can't call it by its nickname directly, so as not to embarrass people. In short, the appellation in communication should not be underestimated, it has a great impact on the psychological distance between the two parties.Appropriate titles can shorten the distance between the two parties, and in this way, things can be easily resolved.