Chapter 13 Chapter 12 Who is that woman?

When grabbing the film, it was calm, Go further. What are you talking about?Mrs. Yuan saw three neighbor wives chatting under the sun, and said jokingly: Be careful that the fish will stink when you go home. nothing!nothing!A few people seemed to be taken aback and dispersed in a hurry. Mrs. Xiao who was next door followed and walked beside Mrs. Yuan. What are you guys talking about?Mrs. Yuan asked again: It's so mysterious. No la!Mrs. Xiao lowered her head and said. There must be something.Mrs. Yuan could see that Mrs. Xiao was unnatural. Really do not have!Mrs. Xiao spoke after a while, and then changed the subject.But when she was about to reach the house, Mrs. Xiao stopped suddenly, lowered her head and thought for a while, stammering: Mrs. Yuan!We are old neighbors, I thought all the way, I better tell you.I think you should pay attention to your old Yuan Yuan.

Why?Mrs. Yuan's complexion changed. Mrs. Xiao hesitated for a long time, saying: It seems that someone saw Lao Yuan with a young woman. who?With whom? No one knows. Who said that?Who saw it?Mrs. Yuan's pale face turned red: Who is talking nonsense?Did he see it? Not me!Mrs. Xiao was scared. Who are you?you!Mrs. Yuan took a step forward and asked sharply. That's what the laundromat owner said. ● Follow Mrs. Yuan to the laundry. The proprietress seems to have already figured it out, so she can't come out from behind. You come out!You come out!Mrs. Yuan shouted. I'm busy!The proprietress turned on the dry cleaning machine very loudly.

I wait you.Mrs. Yuan actually sat down at the door. Seeing that there was no escape, the proprietress wiped her hands and came out, raising her eyebrows, pretending: Do you want to get clothes?It hasn't been washed yet! Didn't wash well?Mrs. Yuan asked: I didn't bring clothes to wash! Mr. Yuan brought it for dry cleaning in the morning.The proprietress shrugged her shoulders and shrank her neck. There was a problem at first sight. Does he come alone, or does he bring others with him?Mrs. Yuan kept a straight face. one person!one person!Of course alone. Then why are you talking nonsense?Mrs. Yuan asked angrily: Did you tell me?

I didn't say it, I didn't say it!You are mistaken.The proprietress shook her hand: I just saw a photo when I was checking your husband's pocket. What picture?Mrs. Yuan pressed hard. a piece of oops you! Don't do this!The proprietress showed a begging expression: a picture of him with a young lady!Nothing! Where are the photos?Mrs. Yuan turned around the counter and asked for it. As soon as your husband saw it, he took it away. Did he say that was his girlfriend?Mrs. Yuan's face softened first, then her eyes glared: Did he say who took the photo for him? The proprietress shook her head.

Let me tell you, it was taken by me, my husband and my cousin who came back from America.Don't talk nonsense in the future, okay?Mrs. Yuan sighed loudly: These days, even taking a photo with relatives requires people to gossip.Thankfully I took the picture.He raised his head again and pointed to the proprietress: You go and clarify for me!Otherwise, I will sue you for slander, and my husband will find you trouble if he finds out. Don't tell your sir!The proprietress bowed straight: I'm sorry!Sorry!You won't be charged for laundry this time! ● Lao Yuan went home. Before closing the door, shoot!Just got slapped.

What about photos?Where's the picture of you with that slut?Mrs. Yuan stood before her eyes like a half pagoda. That night, the two had a violent quarrel. Lao Yuan refused to admit it, saying that it was a photo with a female colleague. Mrs. Yuan still didn't let go, got into bed, turned over, and ignored Lao Yuan. Early the next morning, Lao Yuan secretly got up by himself, went to the refrigerator to get something to eat, and went out quietly. stop!Mrs. Yuan suddenly yelled in the bedroom: The laundryman asked you for a picture, and you said it was my cousin who came back from the United States, and I took the picture.

Yes Yes besides!Mrs. Yuan yelled again: No need to launder money, the proprietress said, this time it's free! have something to say The story is over. Guess what this chapter is about? It is a way of speaking that advances and retreats. Look at Mrs. Yuan in the previous story, isn't she thinking of advancing as retreating?When she hears gossip, she immediately tracks down the source of the rumor. Then, she finds the source.And after discovering that the evidence had been taken away by Lao Yuan, he went into a rage That photo was taken by me! Who can prove that the photo was not taken by her?

Since she took the picture, what's the problem? So the rumors stopped.Those who spread the rumors were mistaken and even saved money on laundry. You say, is this method of advancing as retreat is wonderful? ● Thinking about it from another angle, what would have happened if Mrs. Yuan had scolded her husband, made phone calls, and even chased her to the office to question her? It just ends up being a joke to the neighbors and office colleagues, isn't it? And this joke spread farther and farther, and the more out of shape it became, how will the Yuan family see people in the future?

Unless Mrs. Yuan doesn't want this marriage anymore, it's better to settle accounts behind closed doors, and don't let the family ugliness spread. Even if she really wants to divorce, it's good to make a big fuss and let everyone get divorced after watching enough jokes? Everyone wants face, and death has to be done with face. A boxer who was beaten on the field, as long as he didn't die on the field and got sick after he got off the field, he had to tell the outside world that it was his own old problem, and he couldn't say that he was beaten like that on the field!

So rumors stop at wise men. You can say that wise men don’t believe in rumors, or you can say Only a wise person knows how to use advance as retreat to prevent the spread of rumors.Unless others have full evidence, they must not avoid or shrink back. We can even say that even when you are in a weak situation, it is still a good way to get out. To give a few real-life examples: 1. Do you want to apologize? The MRT bus, which is always on time, was delayed due to a circuit problem. Thousands of students and office workers were late, and there was criticism. The reporter rushed over and asked the MRT chief: Do you want to apologize to the society for this delay?

of course yes!The director of the MRT said seriously: Even if the society understands that we changed the system because of the new system, we don't need an apology, we must apologize, we must apologize! So the original passivity became active, which not only saved face, but also gave people a good impression of being responsible. Two, I have trouble I heard that Lao Wang has been borrowing money everywhere recently. He called just now and said that he would come over. I am afraid that nothing good will happen.Old Chen said to his wife. Just finished speaking, the doorbell rang. welcome!Old Chen rushed out and greeted enthusiastically: Come, come, come!Please sit down!I heard that you have encountered a little difficulty recently.oops!I patted Pharaoh: Where can people be free from difficulties?I also encountered something not going well recently, but I didn't say anything. Fortunately, my wife's family helped me and solved it temporarily. You said, is it okay for Lao Wang to borrow money?It's not bad that Lao Chen didn't ask him to borrow money! Three, it's not good Best-selling author holds a press conference. How do you feel when many people criticize your works for not being literature, or even saying that they are not well written?A reporter asked. I believe their criticisms must be justified, and I never think my work is good, just because I think it is not enough, so I have to keep improving and enriching.The writer said sincerely: I don't know the literary value of my works, I only know that I am writing my own feelings. Wouldn't it be much better to say that than you can't hold back your temper, refute those critics, and end up offending a lot of people, and even get the name of arrogance? ● On the surface, those words are retreat and self-humility, but in fact they are advancing as a retreat, first taking the initiative to make themselves disadvantaged, and then exhausting the disadvantages and climbing from the bottom of the valley. The more abstract arts such as literature, art, and music, the more you can use this method to face criticism. Even looks.Think about it, if you are beautiful, someone asks you unconvinced: Do you think you are beautiful?Someone told you that you are a school girl, is that true? What should you answer? You are right!I am beautiful, I am school belle.Eighty percent will offend a large number of girls. Why don't you say that I don't think I'm beautiful, I just want to be an ordinary person.As for whether she is beautiful or not, whether she is a school belle or not, others are talking about it, and I never take it to heart. Doesn't this not only show your modesty, but also set off your magnificence? 4. Take control first and then find a way out The community where you live will hold a household assembly to elect members of the management committee. You are so respected that you don't dare not attend for fear of being accused of not paying attention to the community.You dare not attend, knowing that as long as you go, you will probably be elected as the chairman of the committee. Are you going or not? you go!Moreover, as soon as he attended, he had mastered the control of the conference and had many suggestions for the community. Sure enough, you were elected as the committee member with the highest number of votes. If you count the number of votes, you are the chairman of the committee. But the meeting is still under your control, so you should speak first: Although I am not in the country often, it is impossible for me to serve as the chairman, but I will definitely assist the chairman with all my strength, and I will volunteer to be the head of the publicity group, do you agree? Everyone applauds. Thinking about it again, you are indeed too busy. Since you volunteer to be in charge of publicity, that's fine.Therefore, another chairman was elected. It's better than if you don't hide, or get elected.Even in the absence of people, you will still be elected as the leader, isn't it much better? how did you do it I took the initiative to do it!It was done with advance as retreat! ◎Control first, then dominate Taking advance as retreat, the biggest advantage is that you can participate and control. Speaking, the most important thing is the master control. Think about it, why are there always people rushing to be the chairmen of many guilds, labor unions, and peasant associations? Because he became the chairman, he can control the overall situation and develop in a direction that is beneficial to him. Thinking down this road, even if you don't plan to speak in the meeting and you can't compete for the chairman's position, you should attend. Why are you here? For participation!In order to protect your interests, but also for human beings. ◎You must not be absent In a competitive situation, if there are always a few people to be criticized, it will always fall on those who are absent. It's human nature to bully someone who isn't there. think about it!Everyone is looking for a scapegoat for failure. Will it fall on the head of the righteous chairman standing in the middle of the stage? Won't! Will it fall on the head of menacing and covetous people? Won't! Will it fall on the head of Mrs. Yuan, who, when you touch the corner of my clothes, I will follow you endlessly? Won't! On which hapless ghost will it fall? Of course, it falls on the person who dares not come in absence, or hides in a corner, timidly, the person who has the least voice and temper. So, remember! Taking advance as retreat is to take the initiative to attack, and it is to tell the other party that you will fight to the end.Even if you don't speak, you can't use your shining eyes to tell everyone: I'm not easy to bully!