Chapter 2 The first letter to you who have fantasies about the future

Step on the back of the great heron and fly into the sky! dear daughter: As high school comes to an end, you seem to be struggling with your future career choice.In fact, you are not the only one who feels this kind of distress. There is no young person who is not as disturbed as you are when faced with such a major problem.All young people will have this kind of distress at some time, and this is a phenomenon that existed before the beginning of human history.Older people tend to dismiss the indecisive attitude of young people as mediocrity; but I don't think so.In my opinion, it is the responsibility of us elderly people to let you stand on the wrong road in life and be confused about where to go.

It is a group society now. Unfortunately, this society has not fulfilled its responsibility to provide sufficient information with high credibility and usefulness, so that people of your age can choose their future careers with certainty.As far as engineering is concerned, there are dozens of subjects in this category, and you can't even figure out their simplest outlines. In this way, is it possible for you to become an engineering technician?Do you know anything about what doctors, lawyers, and geologists are required to do in practice?I dare say you don't know anything about it, because among our relatives, there is no such person!If you have already made a choice about the career you plan to engage in in the future, and if someone is willing to take a few days to show you what the people doing this job are doing every day, I think this should be the most ideal, because this It is the so-called seeing is believing.

One thing that is gratifying is that I did my part to promote this project at the school your brother attended.In order to realize this project, their school invited twelve people from different professions to give speeches to the students in one week.After listening to the lectures of twelve experts in different fields in turn, the students each chose two or more career fields that they were most interested in.We then arrange opportunities to take students on a job site tour of their chosen career.For example, those who are interested in studying medicine, we take them to see the operating room, and those who are interested in computers, we take them to visit computer companies.

After the on-site visit, it was found that some students who participated in the activity greatly changed their views on the careers they were planning to engage in, while other students became more interested in the careers they chose.It can be said that the biggest achievement of that activity was to let the students think about the practical problems in the future based on the concept of livelihood. In order for such an activity to be effective, it takes more than a week.In order for the students to be satisfied with the career they chose twenty years later, that school thought that language advice alone was not enough, so they held such an event.

In the past, almost all career paths could be said to be exclusively for men.What your grandmother is going to do in her life has been preordained the moment she was born.That is childbearing and housekeeping.In the past, only a few occupations such as teachers and nurses were considered suitable for women.In the old days, people believed that the workplace was a man's world, and women were only suitable to stay at home. (In my opinion, the family is the real workplace. Shouldn’t it be the man who said this famous saying when men work at sunrise and rest at sunset, but women’s work never stops?)

In this ever-changing world, childbearing is still the bounden duty of women. (Are most men celebrating this?) In today's society, how many women work outside the home!At the time when I was working hard to obtain the qualification of an accountant, there were really very few women studying this subject (I was still a bachelor at the time, so I felt infinitely lonely).Today, 30 years later, 35% of the graduates of the accounting department of the university are women like you, and this trend is also true in other fields such as law, police, business management, engineering, construction, and medicine. very common phenomenon.In fact, any career field in the modern age can be considered.When faced with such a wide range of choices, you feel at a loss, don't you?In fact, such a choice is not without avenues to follow.

For you now, ten years may be a distant future, but let's predict where you will be ten years from now.What kind of work did you do at that time?At the same time, do you feel happy and content with the status quo?What you should do now is to make a list of possible career choices based on such long-term considerations, and then add some other factors to think about.Are you good at the required subjects in order to choose your preferred career?What are the characteristics of the lifestyle of people engaged in this occupation?For example, female police officers have day and night shifts at work. Have you ever suffered from this?After graduating from university, are there many restrictions on employment opportunities like marine biologists or archaeologists?Are you restricted by geographical conditions in your work?Geologists are often away from home for long periods of time in order to explore new veins.Are these conditions in harmony with your ideal family life?Unless you have a very desirable career field, I would advise you to choose a career that is not restricted by geographical conditions.Otherwise, if you move to a new place in the future, you will not be able to bring your professional ability to the new place to play.Most physicians know that moving abroad can be very difficult.That's because the doctor's law is very strict, and the regulations of each country are very different.If you choose an occupation, the regulations vary from state to state or territory, making it difficult for you to immigrate within the country.

Coordinating the issue of raising children with work is also something that men and women must think carefully before choosing a career.There are indeed couples who have made up their minds not to have children and have avoided the issue altogether.It is true that people without children do not mean that they cannot live a sufficient and happy life. However, because of your sister and brother, I have fully enjoyed the incomparably sweet family happiness. Really happy (I am proud of having such lovely children as you have if everything is fulfilled). Since you are interested in having a child, how to deal with the parenting issues in early childhood must be carefully planned.Many psychologists say that whether a person grows up to be mentally stable or not is mostly decided before the person is three years old.That is to say, during this period, do you really feel loved, whether your daily life is very stable and not lacking in anything, or do you often feel uneasy in a nervous state? These are all affecting a person's spiritual life after growing up. .Although it is quite common for both husband and wife to work outside the home, if you have the freedom to choose, my advice to you is to choose that you have a child in the future, use birth control for several years, and wait until the child starts to go to school , under the circumstances that are not too forced and the conditions are not quite unfavorable, you can still go back to work.During the period before the child reaches school age, finding a job that can be done at home for a long time may be the most ideal type, right? (Your mother, while raising you and your brother, retired from a management position at an ad agency to become a professional writer and became a nationally known screenwriter for children's television!) However, this is purely personal The issue can only be decided after careful consideration by the couple concerned.

Although the future is far away and unpredictable, however, as Lao Tzu said: A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.The things you want to do ten years from now should start dreaming now.If you want my help, I'd be happy to help you narrow down your daydreams to two or three, review them, and then show you around the workplaces of those professions.I will be able to find friends who are engaged in these industries, and I believe that they will be willing to help us (we are old people, and it is fun to serve young people, because we have made too many mistakes ourselves, so we are not willing to) See you young people repeating the same mistakes).After the realization of this plan, I believe you will be quite confident about your future (and excited about the new hope) and come to a relatively solid conclusion, so I have such an optimistic idea for me.

Finally, let me say one more word.Although you are facing a time of heavy, profound, and imperative decisions, you should never forget that this is also the time of your life when you are the happiest and most hopeful about it.You are the one who is about to start moving toward your dreams and living your life.You have the right to pursue your dreams, so take a breath, calm down, and think about it.Dad blesses you with the dream of flying in the sky. send you love Father