Chapter 20 Failure is just the stepmother of success

Success has nothing to do with the number of failures.The important thing is: How many useful lessons do you learn from each failure? Since we were young, we have been educated to regard failure as the mother of success as an inspirational motto. The most typical and widespread example is that Mr. Sun Yat-sen, the father of the country, succeeded after ten failures in the revolution.If you also believe this statement, and often like to sit on the hill of failure and look up at the peak of success, you may waste a lot of time in vain. In fact, the saying that failure is the mother of success is more comforting than practical encouragement.Perhaps after many failures, it is really possible to succeed, but usually it is not obtained by waiting for the number of failures, but by re-mastering the factors of success.

Mr. Wang Yongqing, known as the god of management, said it well: review is the mother of success!We must understand that in the experience of failure, we must repeatedly review the factors that caused the failure, and make improvements in line with changes in the environment. Only then can we gain valuable experience and lessons from it, so as to create success in the next opportunity. It is easy to copy failure, but not easy to turn defeat into victory I once received a very thought-provoking story on the Internet.A pregnant woman was waiting to give birth at home. When the due date was approaching, her stomach hurt until her amniotic fluid broke, so she called the hospital for help and asked an ambulance to take her to the hospital to give birth.After the hospital asked about the situation, it judged that there might be barely enough time, and quickly sent an ambulance to pick her up.Doctors and nurses preparing to deliver babies are also on standby, ready to help with emergency treatment at any time.

When the ambulance arrived at the gate of the hospital, before the mother was sent to the delivery room, the baby could not wait to be born while waiting for the elevator. The doctor congratulated the mother: Congratulations, you are a healthy and lively boy. Not only was she unhappy, she also cried bitterly.The doctor asked her inexplicably: What's wrong?Don't you like boys? The parturient woman shook her head and said: No, I like boys very much, but she seemed to have something to hide, and said hesitantly: I really feel sorry for the child, and let him be born like this before entering the delivery room!Make fun of everyone.

The kind doctor quickly comforted her: Madam, don't be sad, this is actually not the worst.Two or three years ago, I delivered a woman whose condition was even worse. She gave birth to a baby girl in the ambulance before the ambulance even reached the gate of the hospital. After hearing this, the mother was stunned for half a second.The doctor was waiting for her to burst into laughter, but she cried even louder.She confessed to the doctor in a confessional tone: that woman is also me After reading this story, I thought it was funny. I hope this woman plans to have a third child. Based on her progress, the third child should have a chance to be born after entering the delivery room.

In order to gain valuable experience, we must seriously review The situation of many people is worse than that of this woman. They expect to perform better, but they don't know how to review the reasons for failure, so they always repeat the same mistakes and fail repeatedly.What's even more frightening is that after consecutive failures, you still blame others, either because of bad luck, or by blaming others for bad things.Anyway, it's definitely not my problem. For those who don’t know how to examine the reasons for failure and strive for improvement, failure is just success. The stepmother will only do everything possible to consume his energy, make him suffer, and give him suffering. Even if he can really achieve something in the end, the process is very difficult bumpy. (Author's note: This is just a metaphor borrowed from the traditional stereotype of the word stepmother, and it does not mean to insult any women.)

This principle is also valid when applied in the field of love.Some people have scars all over their bodies, and they have been wounded repeatedly because they met unkind people, but they never check whether there is a problem with their vision.If an infatuated woman only wants to deal with different prodigal sons forever, after exhausting her youth, she may only have miserable memories to accompany her.At most, wait until an old tramp who can't walk because he is tired from playing. Although the next lover will be better, this sentence will only be effective for the lovelorn who knows how to improve.If you are always self-righteous and inconsiderate, or only blindly feel sorry for yourself, even the best lover will be scared away.

The German novelist Hoffmann said: Only those who have the ability to doubt themselves and reflect on themselves are truly talented.Success has nothing to do with the number of failures.The important thing is: How many useful lessons do you learn from each failure?