Chapter 19 The third one ↓ three six skills: the trick of answering fluently

Conversation refers to the question and answer between people in communication occasions.There are several forms of dialogues that are common in daily life: answering journalists' questions, dissertation defense, and special topic dialogues.It is an impromptu speech mainly based on question and answer on a specific occasion. Because the scope of the question is not known beforehand, or the debate topic is known, but the other party does not know how to ask the question, so it is very random, and the answerer must have quick thinking. , flexible response and the ability to organize language quickly.

There are many tips for answering, and here are just a few examples. The third technique ◆Ⅰ: Invalid answer What is an invalid answer?Using some meaningless words to make an insubstantial answer is called an invalid answer.It contains two kinds of valid invalid answers and pure invalid answers.The former, on the surface, seems that the respondent did not answer the question directly, but in fact it has a deep connotation that needs to be understood by the other party; the latter means that no answer can be found from the respondent's answer, mostly because the respondent is unwilling to answer or does not want to answer the question. Good answer.

Here is an example of a valid invalid answer: The famous football star Diego.In a ball game, Maradona broke into the penalty area, headed the ball and shot, and inadvertently assisted with his hand. As a result, the ball was shot and the referee ruled that the ball was invalid. After the game, someone asked Maradona immediately, was the ball a header or a handball?Maradona is an honest man, and he replied: Half of the handball belongs to Diego, and half of the header belongs to Maradona. On the surface, this answer does not have a clear answer and is an invalid answer.But if you think about it carefully, this sentence is very implicit. It actually admits that the ball contains handball elements.

Here's another example of an invalid answer: In a certain year, the recruiting staff of a certain university went to a certain city to recruit candidates.A candidate approached the staff member in charge of admissions and asked: I heard that my name has been registered in the enrollment list of your school. Can I be admitted by your school? The staff member in charge of admissions smiled and said: You know, our school is here to recruit some new students. I have registered the names of many candidates in my roster, and your name is also recorded on it.Whether you can be admitted, please go to the list of new students admitted to our school!

Although the staff member in charge of admissions at a certain university also answered the question raised by the candidate, he could not find out the answer whether he could be admitted or not. If he wanted to get the answer, he had to go to the list of admitted freshmen published in the newspaper. up! The third and second technique Ⅱ: Answering the wrong question What is an irrelevant answer?The answerer avoids the questioner's language, or saves some face for the questioner, bypasses the question raised, and answers in a tactful and decent manner. For example: A student asked the teacher:

How was my score on this test? The teacher replied: If you usually practice more basic knowledge, your score will be higher. Obviously, the student's test scores are not going to be high.Although the teacher did not directly answer his actual score and blame him for his faults, he still pointed out his shortcomings of not paying attention to laying down the basic knowledge in a more tactful manner. It not only answered the questions raised by the student, but also did not affect his positive learning attitude. frustrates him psychologically. Another conversation: A: The one hundred yuan you lent my wife last time have not been returned to you, have you?

B: It's okay. That's the answer.In fact, Party B has implicitly told Party A: Your wife has not repaid the money I borrowed from me.He didn't directly answer that he didn't return it, but said that it didn't matter and it was very decent, which seemed to be friendly and generous. The third and third techniques Ⅲ: Avoid and do not answer What do you mean by avoiding an answer?That is, they do not answer the substantive questions raised by the questioners at all, and most of them are questions that are not suitable for answering those raised by impolite questioners. For example:

A: I heard that you are going to marry her, is that right? B: Go and ask her! again: A: Someone told me that you said a lot of bad things about me behind my back, didn't you? B: Whoever told you, you can ask whoever it is! again: A: This question, you have to tell me clearly! B: Of course we have to make it clear, but now is not the time. In such a dialogue, the respondent does not directly answer the question raised by the questioner, so that the other party cannot get the real situation and avoid many unnecessary disputes. The third and fourth techniques ◆Ⅳ: advance with retreat

What does it mean to retreat to advance?That is, in the dialogue, the answerer admits the words of the questioner, and then responds appropriately. For example: A: You trust him so much, you really misjudged the man! B: Yes, I am not mistaken about you. again: A: If you go on like this, there will definitely be no good results! B: You are right, try your luck!Maybe not necessarily. again: A: You are so beautiful, why haven't you found a partner yet? B: Yes, because I chose more carefully than you. In these few conversations, because the questioner was aggressive, with a sharp and unscrupulous tone, the answerer adopted the method of first approving and then responding.This is called retreating.

The third and fifth techniques ◆Ⅴ: Detour to answer What is a bypass answer?It means that the answerer cleverly bypasses the very sharp and difficult questions deliberately raised by the questioner, and pushes the question to the questioner in another way, so that he can answer it by himself. In ancient times, there was a private school teacher who liked to doze off at his desk under the classroom.A clever student used to scratch his nostrils with grass stalks to wake him up.When he wakes up, he always likes to claim that he has gone to dreamland to meet the ancient sages and sages. Once, that bright student was also dozing off in class. The school teacher saw it and thought it was a good time to take revenge, so he sternly reprimanded him:

Why are you dozing off? Student answer: Mr. wronged someone, I am learning! The school teacher was very angry and shouted: He is clearly dozing off, yet he still dares to argue! The student replied: Really, I went to dreamland to meet the ancient sages, just like you dream of the ancient sages. The school teacher deliberately made things difficult for the student and asked: What lessons did the ancient sages teach you? The students answered calmly: When I met the ancient sages and sages, I asked them: Our husband visits you almost every day, what lessons have you taught him?The ancient sages and sages said: You can ask your husband and you will know!Sir, you must know, right? This student used this method of fighting back, using his own way, to deal with his own body, and exposed the master's tricky intentions. The third and sixth techniques Ⅵ: indirect answer What is an indirect answer?It means that the answerer uses ingenious language to answer by analogy to the questioner's questioning of certain sensitive issues. For example: In the 1930s, when Churchill visited the United States, an American congresswoman who opposed him said to him: If I were your wife, I'd poison your coffee! Churchill smiled and replied: If I were your husband, I'd drink that cup of coffee. Churchill used this kind of teasing tone to indirectly attack the female congressmen, which was more powerful than direct answers, which made the female congressmen extremely embarrassed. Another example: During World War II, Churchill strongly advocated the alliance of Britain and the Soviet Union to resist Germany in a speech.A reporter asked him maliciously why he spoke for Stalin, the head of the communist country? Churchill smiled and replied humorously: If Hitler invaded hell in Germany, I would also speak for Hades in the House of Commons. Here, Churchill does not directly express his point of view, but uses the analogy of invading hell, and puts his point of view in it, allowing the other party to taste the reasons for it. In a word, in answering, one must answer properly, answer with certain moral and cultural qualities, master many skills such as those mentioned above, and at the same time have certain adaptability, in order to be able to deal with various situations freely and answer fluently.