Chapter 23 The fifth technique: how to subtly reject others

Rejecting others is an art of contingency.How to avoid being misunderstood and form hatred and put yourself in a very disadvantageous position in a difficult situation or under the pressure of certain situations, this requires the use of intelligence and wisdom, clever use of words of rejection, in order to insist on one's will, Get out of bad situations. How to tactfully reject others? At a meeting of an electronic company in the United States, the manager of the company took out a trademark designed by him and asked for everyone's opinions. The manager said: This trademark is designed with a sun, which is very similar to the national emblem of Japan. Japanese people will be happy to buy our products when they see it.

All the people attending the meeting praised the manager's design in unison, which is very good, and it will definitely expand the Japanese market and bring great benefits to the company. However, a young director in charge of sales said: I disagree with this logo design. The manager was taken aback.The people present also looked at him in surprise. The young director added: I'm afraid it's too good to be true! The manager was even more puzzled, and asked with a smile: I can't understand your words, can you tell me why? The young director said: The theme of this sun design is indeed very harmonious with the Japanese region, and it will definitely be loved by the Japanese, and the sales of the products will definitely be good.However, what our company wants to expand at present is not the Japanese market, but the Chinese market.As soon as the Chinese people see the Japanese national emblem, they will think of the sun flag that was everywhere when Japan invaded China, and they will feel disgusted. Isn't this contrary to our company's plan to expand trade with China?This is obviously a bull's head and a horse's mouth!

The manager suddenly realized and exclaimed excitedly: Your words are so good! This example shows that when expressing opposition or rejection to a superior or someone with authority, you must not be straightforward, but must have sufficient reasons and adopt clever strategies.The young director first gave the manager face with a very good compliment, which satisfied his self-esteem and made him look decent.Then I will explain my reasons: what I want to expand is not the Japanese market, but the Chinese market.And be rejected.The manager feels that the words are reasonable, and he will not feel unable to step down.

Another interesting story about declining an invitation: A young man invited a young woman to watch a movie at the cinema at night. He stuffed the movie ticket into the woman's hand and said: Please give me your credit! The young woman was a little disgusted with the man's abrupt behavior and decided to reject his invitation, but she was afraid of losing his face, so she took out a calendar from her purse, opened it, looked at it, and said: Sorry, my sister has made an appointment with me to go to my sister's house for dinner in the evening. The young woman handed back the movie ticket and said: Thank you!

The young woman refused politely like this, of course the young man couldn't say anything more. In interpersonal communication, subtly rejecting others is an art of adapting to changing circumstances.In the process of rejecting others, we should adopt a friendly and enthusiastic attitude, and we don't have to look coldly at each other, let alone embarrass others.