Chapter 31 Sixth and sixth skills: the communication connotation of chatting

Chatting refers to impromptu conversations anytime, anywhere without a clear purpose.Smart people often use the opportunity of chatting to chat with people of different occupations and generations, which can expand their contact surface, obtain a lot of new information, and even make inferences, so that some people have been puzzled for a long time. Chatting can also make friendships, coordinate relationships, adjust psychology, and delight feelings, so that you can release your depressed and unhappy mood in one breath, which has an immeasurable effect. The famous German writer Goethe had a habit of chatting. He and his secretary Eckermann chatted for a while after work every day, and they never stopped for decades.Most of the witty language of genius in his work comes from small talk.He mocked the ugliness, satirized the secular world, and wrote "Arias of Goethe" with the beautiful language of spewing jade and pearls, which amazed the world.

Great British dramatist George Bernard Shaw and Hollywood actress Ingrid.Bergman's near-argumentative small talk is also very interesting. In the summer of 1948, George Bernard Shaw was in his apartment in London with visiting Ingrid.Bergman chatting.During the chat, Bernard Shaw heard that Ingrid.Bergman starred in a play about the French national hero Joan of Arc, but it was not the script he wrote with the same theme. He was quite unhappy and asked Ingrid in an almost aggressive tone.Bergman: Why don't you act in the script I wrote? Ingrid.Bergman smiled, picked up the tea, and said:

Sir, may I have some tea? sure.But why don't you use my script? Ingrid.Bergman smiled again and said: Because I don't like it. When Bernard Shaw heard this, he was stunned!This is an evaluation of his script that he has never heard in various formal conversations. All he has heard in the past are compliments and praises.Unexpectedly, during the chat, the actress would dare to be so abrupt in front of her face. Bernard Shaw calmly asked Ingrid.Why didn't Bergman like the script he wrote. The 33-year-old actress was as innocent as a girl in front of the 92-year-old literary master. She eloquently stated her point of view, thinking that Joan of Arc was too clever in Bernard Shaw's script Yes, some monologues and dialogues of Joan of Arc in the script are not like what the French girl in history can say.

Bernard Shaw laughed out loud, deliberately provoking Bergman and said: You, a famous star, haven't acted in the play I wrote, which proves that you haven't started yet! Unexpectedly, Bergman became more serious and said: I really want to play the play you wrote, but the lines of your script are brilliant, but they are played by a playwright, which does not fit Joan's status; you deliberately portray Joan's spiritual world so perfectly, which degrades The appeal of the work. Bergman's frankness, sincerity and unique insights deeply moved this master of literature. A chat resulted in a mutual understanding, which enabled Bernard Shaw to see the shortcomings of his own scripts and gained a lot, which was not achieved on other occasions. arrived.

From the above two typical cases, it can be seen that chatting has no purpose in essence and can be chatted freely.But gossip does not necessarily mean idle time.The clever Goethe and Bernard Shaw were able to chat about their feelings from small chats, turning aimless chats into purposeful language exchanges and emotional exchanges, and finally obtained unexpected gains. Of course, chatting is different from vulgar, low-level or even obscene jokes. It is best not to talk about meaningless and worthless topics, let alone tell the truth, belittle others, let alone show off casually, causing others to resent.