Chapter 87 ★85 If you can't refuse, just use words to prevaricate!

Do you find that you often fall into the trap of socializing, especially when the hostess of the social occasion invites you?In fact, you really don't want to be there, you just don't have other appointments, and there's no valid reason for that.These things happen to us all the time. I have a friend who has been afraid to say no to people for years.Sally is a strong, energetic woman who has built a successful business and is capable of leading a staff of twenty. She handles affairs decisively and courageously, and can stand on an equal footing with other partners.However, once she entered her social life, she was easily led by the nose.She knows her shortcomings, but she just can't refuse people's kindness.

However, she found herself feeling jittery before attending a dinner party recently.Because she knew that when Martha called to invite her later, if she could make up a reasonable explanation, she would be able to lie comfortably on the sofa with a good book.She made up her mind to do it then, and she succeeded. Therefore, she finally understood the art of prevarication.She made a list of possible excuses and kept it next to the phone at home and at work.Now, her list comes in handy when someone calls and invites her to parties she doesn't like.Then she goes a step further, keeping some prevarications on her lips, avoiding acquaintances she meets on the street or at a supermarket checkout.When she enjoys being with someone, she adjusts her words slightly.She no longer has to waste her time with others unless she volunteers.

One of her most common and best sayings is: Thank you!Martha!But I already have an appointment for Saturday night.Moreover, she also understands that she can't add another sentence: Maybe next time!Because she knew that people like Martha would take her words seriously. There is no doubt that her social life has shrunk rapidly, but it has given her more time to do the things she really wants to do.